It always beats my brain that Nigeria has a dedicated national programme & budget to fund the rehabilitation of terrorists but has nothing dedicated for the victims of the terrorists who are traumatized for life.
We had to beg you people to lend your voices for the kidnapped children in Borno.
See how easy it was to make this topic of other people’s marital affair trend
Then tomorrow, it will be “nobody cares about the north”🙃
And there’s that BBC documentary showing fathers in Afghanistan selling their underage daughters to other men, while these women are outside risking their lives to protect children.
Women have always been the true protectors.
I’m here to sha remind women about my own agenda for them to be as intentional about their own rights too as men have shown to do & will always do. In this life, it’s Allaah first, then YOURSELF.
If you like, accept fātihah for your mahr. If you like, don’t be insistent on getting provided for in terms of all your essentials, including cooking utensils & other similar items to help you settle that they’ve culturally turned to you & your family’s responsibility (yes I’m stubborn & repetitive. Cry 🌚). If you like, don’t pursue your halal financial independence (which doesn’t have to be office job, and which he absolutely doesn’t have the right to stop you from). If you like, stay & endure all sorts of nonsense that internally kills you & cause you unbearable harm you because of all the gaslighting about divorce (of course only when necessary).
At the end of the day, both men and women cannot do without the other, no matter how much these folks try to make you think it’s just a feminine issue. “Nobody will marry you”, I promise you nobody will marry them too if y’all stand on business & start being similarly intentional about your desires and rights. “Marriage is not just about rights”, lol, I pity you. Classic كلمت حق يراد بها باطل.
Half a word is enough for the wise sha. May Allaah rectify us all and may he grant good people good people and only allow the demons across both aisles to find one another.