My therapist told me:
“When a person grows up feeling unseen, they learn to love by over-giving. They pour into everyone else, hoping that, one day, someone will finally pour back into them. So they become the care taker. The fixer. The one who shows up, even when no one shows up for them.”
And the hardest part? Deep down, they're not trying to be strong. They're just waiting for someone to do for them what they've spent their whole life doing for everyone else.
I'm kind of an absent friend like i will love you with my whole heart and go out of my way to give you any help you need but I tend to live in my own world and suck at keeping up communication and I'm really sorry to anyone who takes that personally.
a girl on tiktok said “it crazy how some people will never ask for your side of the story because the side they heard fits the description of how they want to feel about you” and i felt that to the core.
i CANNOT fw people who do NOT understand the PRINCIPLE of things. it’s not what you did. it’s how you did it. and what makes it worse is knowing if roles were reversed, you’d lose your mind