Every shipper collectively agreeing that Maomao would be the slightly more assertive parent in discipline but still fair, since her cognitive emotional development has likely matured in her possible late twenties.
If I had a nickel for every complex-written East Asian-coded, major fictional character that doesn't get along well with either one or both parents, ...I'll get many red packets.
'female lead is the closest example to being bisexual or asexual' and 'her growing and endgame love interest is the canon heterosexual male lead' are two things that can exist.
...They're really made for each other so in my opinon, it's also not accurate to think one is more mature and wiser than the other 'cause of different circumstances.
Man, TAD LN 5 and it's really just Maomao going through her self-destruction arc as a consequence of rapid adultification from a young age, as well as being torn away from her support system that mostly came from her rear palace days...
...Also, as I mentioned before, it's so interesting that she sort of accurately perceive the kind of upbringing Jinshi has in relation to some of his behaviour and yet, she's also another side of the same coin in having to grow up fast...