If you really want to understand others, there’s no better interpersonal skill to develop than non-reactivity and the ability to speak without making value judgements. Only then will people tell you what’s true instead of what’s safe.
@stephengadubato@Ayishat_Akanbi Looking forward to listening to this! I exhausted all the episodes I could find with her last summer and had to resort to replaying them at times when nothing new came up. She is absolutely brilliant.
If you strive to be ‘good,’ rather than honest, thoughtful, discerning, and principled, you’ll forever be controlled by social approval and relentlessly alienated from your real voice.
My wife left me home alone with the kids to go out drinking with her friends. A lesser man might whine and complain, but instead I'm just playing Chumbawamba's 1997 hit "Tubthumping" over and over and over. On the jukebox at their bar. Using the TouchTunes app.