Giving a man the highest honor ( a child ) before real commitment is foolish... whats even more foolish is bashing him because you're unable to make better decisions.
YOU'RE the gate keeper to YOUR womb...
Why do you believe becoming a baby mama is out of YOUR control? Tell a man : "I will not remove BC until you marry me" "we will NOT have unprotected sex until you marry me" "I will not bare your children until you marry me" It's that damn simple!
I take wifehood very seriously and you ladies should too.
Your daughters are watching!! What type of standards and examples are you setting for them?
If they turned out JUST like you is that something you'd be proud of ?
If you were a single baby mama why on earth wouldn't you encourage your daughter to do differently from you ?
Why would you be okay with your daughter facing the same hardships and difficulty you did?
Sure marriage isn't for everyone... but if marriage isn't for you why have children? Do you think your child enjoys having "mommy's house" and "daddys house"?
Regardless of the differences your child would prefer a united household where everyone has the same last name. PERIOD !
It's time to face facts. ๐ฏ
A Black woman's independence is NOT ๐ซ worth more than the continuance of the Black family unit ๐ช๐พ... so why are we treating it as such? ๐ค
My husband and I are expecting our first baby girl this year๐ง๐พ๐ถ๐พ !!
It came to my attention I'll have the amazing opportunity to raise our daughter to be a wife๐ฐ๐พ.. something I see is taken for granted these days ๐ ๐พโโ๏ธ
A large family helps create generational wealth.
A large family helps execute the family legacy.
Tell me again how you expect a long lasting bloodline with only 1 child ?๐ค