Learning to lean into paradox & uncertainty. Practicing grace. Raging moderate. For such a time as the era of AC, I was placed upon the earth. GCTS ‘21 & ‘24.
First there’s this piece by David French, who devoted much of his legal career to defending the First Amendment rights of conservative writers and scholars
https://t.co/V8VzYAnJw8
Every time we treat someone with dignity rather than shame, respect rather than disregard, concern rather than exploitation, kindness rather than brutality and careful attention rather than turning away – we are doing things that are the reverse of trauma and evil.
You can have a therapist and still be unaware of your relational impact.
You can know your Enneagram type and still be a deeply dysregulated and dysregulating person.
You can write and speak on kindness and still be profoundly unkind.
Stay curious.
One good thing Twitter has done is level the playing field so that everyone has a voice. But that doesn’t equate to competence, capacity, expertise, experience.
There are many of us who worked long and hard to get graduate degrees and licensure as clinicians. But many are also taking shortcuts these days, calling themselves counselors or spiritual directors or coaches, even charging for it absent degrees, certification, licensure, ethical standards, and accountability.
Be wise about who you listen to and who you receive care from. We’re living in a time where social media “experts”abound, with large followings, looking to build businesses, not care for souls.
Discern well!
Emotional maturity is, at least in part, the capacity to hold multiple emotions at the same time. Don’t gaslight yourself into thinking you’ve always got to have one clear feeling about something. People are complex. Relationships are complex. Grow in your capacity to hold both.