The person who says βI had no choiceβ always had a choice.
They just did not like the other options.
Ownership does not mean you caused every situation. It means you refuse to let any situation own you.
You do not have a motivation problem.
You have a nervous system that is running on three hours of deep sleep, fourteen hours of screen exposure, and zero movement before noon.
Fix the hardware. The software updates itself.
You are not overwhelmed because life is hard.
You are overwhelmed because you were trained for tasks in a world that now runs on systems.
Nobody taught you how to build one.
That is the gap between where you are and where you want to be.