Michael Walecki

Psychotherapist

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We build escape clauses into our relationships and responsibilities in fear of being hurt if things don't work out how we hope they would.

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Focusing on cost and effort diminishes drive. Here's a reframe for cost; You always pay a price.. the price of doing something, or the price of not. Decide which cost you're going to pay.

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Who's unconscious approval are you seeking?

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Staying in relationship that don't respect will leasd to diminishing self worth

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Talking about pain without identifying as a victim = emotional growth

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How much of your "boundaries" are you setting to put off responsibilities that are apart of your assigned role?

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Who are you the "go-to" person for in your family? In your friend group?

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Whether a person has a history of developing "on time" or not, the most important time to take advantage of an "optimal window" is now.

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Developmental science shares there are optimal windows where specific advancements are made in a human's growth. I'd argue this is a never ending process until death.

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This also means that people are able to miss these windows, and then come back and do much better than those that first claimed the opportunity.

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The unintentional consequence of admitting an issue you have been hiding from others is that they have the right to question their reality about who you are and have been up to that very moment.

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whats more impactful; one intense experience or multiple consistent experiences?

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positive self-talk can be perceived as a threat to effectiveness when being hard on or critical of oneself was used to motivate

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Other people's lack of responsibility is an opportunity for you to grow/learn skills.

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The desire to make good feelings permanent guarantees less good feelings.

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Fences, bank vaults, door locks are borders/boundaries that protect something that is valuable. When establishing boundaries with yourself and others, ask yourself "what valuable thing am I protecting from others?".

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If Life is unfair, either accept the rules of the game that you are not willing to adapt to, or create a new reality by living more deeply in your values (does not determine success, but potential increased meaning/fulfillment). Both ideas can coexist together.

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If we look back and find the silver lining in our tragedies, why not see them as a gift in the present moment and utilize the opportunity while we still have control over it?

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Parents feeling lazy and not preparing healthy food...children need to relearn health and nutrition

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Children take on whatever responsibility their parents have neglected.