First day of
‘No bouquet, but please get registers/copies/pen/pencils/geometry box/sketchpen/colour pencils instead’! All this will then continue to go to children in ZP schools!
Reforming gift giving a little in Nanded ZP.
Few hard lessons emerging from the #Twisha case and the Apex Court’s observations — for daughters, parents, in-laws, communities, and police:
• The moment dowry demands, coercion, or mental cruelty surface, daughters and parents must raise the red flag and intervene early. Silence only emboldens greed and deepens suffering.
• Educated and earning women must not endlessly adapt to or tolerate abuse without timely mediation, support, and documentation.
• No woman should feel captive in an unliveable marital home. Dignified alternatives must be explored jointly by her and her parents.
• In suspected dowry deaths, police must act swiftly: secure the scene, preserve evidence, record statements without delay, and investigate professionally and impartially.
• Families and communities must stop normalising suffering in marriage or treating separation as failure. Safety, dignity, and life itself must take precedence over social stigma.
• In-laws must refrain from defamatory attacks on the victim; husbands should cooperate fully with the law, not evade scrutiny. Absconding often deepens suspicion and carries serious legal consequences.
• Senior police leadership must visibly assure fair, impartial, and confidence-inspiring investigation.
The Hon’ble Court’s powerful reminder must stay with us: “It is better to have a divorced daughter at home than a dead daughter.”
More lessons will emerge as facts unfold through investigation and the charge sheet.
A husband questioning whether his child is even his is what changes a woman’s behaviour, not the pregnancy itself. Men like this claim to be misunderstood, they are not. They are emotionally abusive. This is the classic cycle of gaslighting - provoke, accuse, destabilise, then paint the victim’s reaction as the real issue.
And somehow, the woman is expected to carry the trauma quietly and gracefully while breaking inside. All while his cruelty gets reframed as concern or whatever else. This is exactly what happened with Twisha Sharma. My heart breaks for her.
The Twisha Dowry case has affected me at such deep levels. The chats, the lack of remorse, the bizarre expectations, and honestly I have seen this around with many friends and their families.
To girls, well-spoken, rich, good-looking, is literally NOTHING. Choose the heart.
The former president, APJ Abdul Kalam, wrote long back, that there are more reviews than views in this country.
Meaning, if critique comes at the cost of critical thinking and solutions, it’s of no use.
It took one man, Mr. Ratan Tata, to formulate a system where all stray dogs can enter the Taj or a Zudio mall!
It didn’t take much. Just sensitivity to let them live in certainty of food and shelter! And none of them bite any guest or customers btw! Because all it takes is love!
No shampoo, conditioner, expensive salon treatments and a homeless beggar has the thickest hair on his head.
Expensive shampoos, treatments and a man in Mercedes sits bald.
And I wonder why!
Earlier: 1 acre farmland, 20 litres of water to spray pesticides on it, 4-5hours of labour
Now: 1 acre farmland, 2 litres of water to spray pesticides on it, 5 minutes of drone operating labour!
Wonders of ZP cess :)
Year 2004
A farmer installed a biogas plant through the national biogas mission. Spends 8000 rupees from his own pocket.
Now saves close to 9000-9500 yearly on LPG and enjoys clean cooking gas throughout the year!
There was a time when ‘dark brown hands are meant to only clean’ was the truth. Then they started coding, innovating, building!
There are many truths like that. But to break their mirage, not easy!