When Drake said “spent months in the corner, just me and my back. I’m use to this but numb to that. I know I just gotta adapt”. Go ahead and start the whole song over.
New Cleo Sol album in rotation and I must say it resonates w/me in how it details a person who has spent a long time learning how to survive, finally learning that they are allowed to live, receive, love and remain soft.
Very “I don’t have to harden myself to be safe anymore”.
You should study what makes you defensive. The topic you avoid, the joke that irritates you, the question that feels insulting, the feedback you instantly reject. Defensiveness is usually the guard dog sitting in front of a weakness you have not trained yourself to face.
I saw a guy say, “A spoiled woman is a 5-star review of her man.” And honestly, the opposite is true too. A woman who is constantly drained, unhappy, and emotionally exhausted is telling you something about the man she’s with. Your woman often reflects the way you love her do with that what you will.
Maya Angelou was so right. In most situations, “You are not in it.” What she meant was, that person would have acted that way, with or without you. So stop asking why did they do me like this. It’s not you babe. It’s who they are.
You REDUCE crime by eliminating POVERTY. The reason so called nice neighborhoods have lower crime rates is because people’s basic needs are being met. It is not because of police, alarm systems, or neighborhood associations. Poverty creates crime.