A breakup with a low-effort partner is so painful because you realize you did all the work.
You accepted what you shouldn't.
But here's what you learned:
Saw someone say “you don’t get to starve a child of love and emotional safety for decades and then demand intimacy as an adult. You raised distance. Now sit with it.” AND I FELT THAT BIH
It’s crazy how most people use their 20s to build a career, but if you grew up in chaos, you basically spend those years just trying to survive the aftermath of your upbringing. It's like you're not even at the starting line yet bc you’re still repairing the track.
I had a minor breakdown cos work got too stressful so I called a counselling service & spoke to an Irish man named Steve & while I was telling him the story that led to it he kept saying “OOHH MY GOT, ARE YE SERIOUS?!?” repeatedly and honestly that worked. He was just so shocked