One of the ugliest truths about life is, every choice we make kills another version of ourselves. Get married, and you'll eventually miss the freedom you had alone. Stay single, and there will be nights when you wonder what it would've been like to build a life with someone. Have children, and you'll miss parts of the life you never had before them. Don't have children, and you may spend years wondering about the family you never created.
There is no perfect path and there is no decision that leaves you with everything.
The life you didn't choose will always look better from a distance because you never had to pay its price.
Stop searching for a choice you won't regret, it doesn't exist. choose your life, accept what it costs, and live with the consequences.
I think people underestimate how tired you can be from just having too much on your mind! Not even physically tired! Just tired of remembering things, handling things, thinking ahead, fixing stuff, making decisions, being needed, tryna stay afloat etc. That's just a lot for real.
I donโt think people realise how much of your personality can disappear when you donโt feel emotionally safe around someone. I become quieter. More careful with my words. Less playful, less expressive, less willing to let myself be seen. Youโll still know me. Youโll still recognize my face, hear my voice, and know the basic version of who I am. But you wonโt know the version of me that comes out when I feel completely safe. The loud, silly, affectionate, unfiltered version that doesnโt have to think twice before being herself. What looks like a change in personality is simply a person becoming smaller because they no longer feel safe enough to be fully themselves.
This is peak Britishness. The grimey playful beat, that Iโm sure if you strip it down could have been on some British early 00s game show, the styling, setting, youth โ the bombing of the wall. God. PIONEER
The dishes are in the sink because people ate.
The shoes are by the door because people came home.
The toys are scattered everywhere because people were happy.
Some of the mess is proof of a good life.
Stay grateful.
The dishes are in the sink because people ate.
The shoes are by the door because people came home.
The toys are scattered everywhere because people were happy.
Some of the mess is proof of a good life.
Stay grateful.
girl to girl: sometimes youโll find an old picture of yourself and suddenly realize you were actually beautiful during a time when you spent so much energy criticizing yourself.
Nothing will ever convince me that being 12 years old, sitting on the floor of your bedroom, listening to music on a tiny CD player while flipping through a magazine wasnโt one of the most peaceful eras of human civilization.
You didn't waste time. You lived life. Too many people beat themselves up over missteps that were actually lessons. If you're reading this now, you can adjust. Give yourself some graceโฆ you're human, and everyone has shortcomings!!
Don't let a 10-minute problem consume a 24-hour day. The email was uncomfortable. The train was late. The conversation went poorly. Feel it, deal with it, then allow the rest of your life to remain intact.
Iโm in love with this sentence:
โEvery pattern in your life repeats until you learn the lesson. The moment you choose differently, the loop ends and growth begins.โ