I don’t think men are clueless. They know how to make a woman feel special. If you’re constantly getting the bare minimum, maybe that’s the amount of effort they’ve decided you’re worth.
The idea that unmarried women will 'die alone' is ridiculous because...everyone dies alone. You're not going to take your husband and children to the grave with you.
Most men are gay. They're literally gay. Because they don't really like us women. Our natural bodies, they think it's gross. Our interests, they think it's cringe. Spending time with us, they think it's like a responsibility. And if a guy has a girlfriend, and instead of date night with her, he genuinely wants to be with the boys, and he feels it's a punishment that he can't spend time with his boys, he doesn't really like her. So I genuinely think most men are gay but they haven't figured it out because being gay is like also too feminine for them and they don't like feminine things.