Unlearn shame. All kinds of shame: abuse, unemployment, sickness, vulnerability, longing, desire, mistakes, failures. You need not be ashamed of what you're feeling or living. Freedom and shame cannot coexist.
All of the happiness in life is realizing you are 100% in control of your life, and you're capable of making tough decisions that might hurt for a couple of weeks and months, but can lead to long-term happiness.
RECOVER FASTER THAN EVERYONE
Lose the day. Come back at night. Miss the gym. Go tomorrow. Waste a week. Win the next one. Get embarrassed. Stay visible. Get rejected. Try again. Fall behind. Move anyway. Stop turning every mistake into a new identity. Stop making failure mean more than it does. Stop disappearing every time life proves youโre still human. The men who win arenโt perfect. They just donโt stay gone.
The cheat code is simple.
Become impossible to keep down.
When Carl Jung said:
โNo matter how isolated you are and how lonely you feel, if you do your work truly and conscientiously, unknown allies will come and seek you.โ