I made a dopamine menu because someone on TikTok told me to and then a neuroscientist politely explained I was misunderstanding dopamine...
Apparently it's not a "Pleasure Chemical" you can just refill. It's more like your brain's way of saying "this was worth it, remember it"
BUT the menu still helped....just not for the reason i thought. You see....when you're overwhelmed, even deciding what might help feels like another task like having a list removes that friction
So I ended up ditching the dopamine framing entirely and just wrote down what I actually need:
💠overwhelmed = warm light + fiction
💠restless = bad watercolor or a new café
💠burnt out = walk with zero headphones
And here's the expert's warning that's stuck with me: Don't optimize your rest.....Sometimes the menu item is "do nothing"
We've been measuring happiness wrong.
Turns out "who you eat dinner with" predicts life satisfaction about as well as your income or job status. Researchers looked at 150k people worldwide......And it's not just mood.....solo eaters had measurably smaller brain volume in memory regions.
The word "companion" literally means "with bread."
👉🏻"companion" = cum + panis = with bread. The romans knew this.
Italians still get this (~9 shared meals a week). The rest of us are just forgetting.
Text someone. They probably want company more than you think.
Be honest. Have you ever entered a restaurant, looked at the prices, made eye contact with the menu, and immediately decided you were no longer hungry?