There’s a very real strain of narcissism that’s pervading a lot of men
You can’t see yourself. You only see yourself reflected back by other people.
“Is this girl perfect enough to be the kind of chick that the man I want everyone to think I am would be with?”
Pitiful
my therapist changed my life when he taught me there are 4 types of conversation:
1) small talk (weather, etc)
2) swapping (you tell a story, I tell a story)
3) listening (you tell a story, I listen/validate)
4) problem-solving (you tell me a story, I help solve the problem)
Mel Gibson says he stopped moving with security because he believes, “If something’s gonna happen, it’s gonna happen.”
Joe Rogan: “I have some friends that have a place in Mexico. I’m always like, don’t you ever worry?”
Mel Gibson: “I worked in Mexico a couple of times.”
“They said, ‘You’re crazy going for a walk. You’ll get kidnapped.’”
“I said, ‘I’m not gonna get kidnapped. I’m the guy that pays.’”
“‘You’re gonna get kidnapped.’”
“‘And I’m not gonna pay your ransom.’”
“I used to watch guys who do what I do for a living, and they had a phalanx of bodyguards around them.”
“I used to have that stuff for a little while.”
“Meh… doesn’t make any difference.”
“If something’s gonna happen, it’s gonna happen.”
“You’re gonna be okay… or not.”
Joe Rogan: “Everybody’s gonna be okay until they’re not.”
if you are btwn 25-40 yo
do not go to bed today until you have done exactly what i’m about to tell you to do
define what success really means to you
pick a piece of paper, write your name on top of it and then under that, say, what success means to me and then DEFINE that for yourself and to yourself.
& until you do that
you are not on your way to anywhere
Tom Brady explains why the greatest coaches make their players feel completely miserable
"High-performing environments are hard. And they're hard because there's a degree of being uncomfortable every day"
"You were uncomfortable when Alex Ferguson walked in the room because he had a perfection about the way that he expected you to perform"
"Bill Belichick made Monday through Saturday uncomfortable. Every day was hard, so that Sunday everyone won, and we were all happy that we won on Sunday"
"His legendary mantra for 20 years was 'Do your fucking job'"
The line you walk is having enough swagger loaded in the chamber that you don’t give a fuck if you lose ANYTHING but also being protective of what you have at the same time.
The moment you start questioning or doubting yourself based on the outcomes or results…
That’s when you start to lose and lose more.
On a higher level, you accept and expect all outcomes. So whatever happens, you’re not phased by anything.
The moment you start questioning or doubting yourself based on the outcome or results…
That’s when you start to lose and lose more.
On a higher level, you accept and expect all outcomes. So whatever happens, you’re not phased by anything.
If you’re not who you want to be yet
Cannot stress the importance of adventuring thru the world solo
Need a lot of time w yourself in action to make an identity
Return to community when u have some battle scars & great victories
Find your own way
It’s critical
Most people can’t get what they want because they aren’t the person that deserves the thing they want.
If they got the thing they want; they would lose it because they aren’t the person that deserves what they want.