One thing I’m learning as a sex therapist in training is that your BDSM personality will expose your real relationship needs.
Being a brat, a sub, a rope bunny, prey, a switch, a masochist it’s not “just kinky.” It’s your attachment style with the lights dimmed.
Brats want someone who can match them.
Subs need consistent leadership, not control.
Rope bunnies crave safety and structure.
Prey needs clear pursuit.
Switches need flexibility.
Masochists want intensity and presence. 1/2
nonsexual dominance is so attractive. having someone choose for you? placing a hand on your back? pulling you closer in crowded areas? fixing your hair when you didn't know it was messy? holding your hand to guide you through crowds? telling you when you should eat or go to bed? top tier
“Here, baby. I got you something” and when the sub opens it, it’s a really cute necklace that they had been eyeing. Satisfied with their reaction, the dom helps the sub put it on. While the sub is admiring it, the dom makes sure the gps app is working so the sub cant get away :D
Want to find out how much stronger I am? I want you to put up a fight. I want you to kick and scream and bite, just to end up with your wrists above your head, pinned to the ground. I want you to find out exactly how helpless you are.
You need to admit to yourself more often that you’d rather be my permanent house pet than go to work everyday. Anticipating Mommy’s needs before your own, at my beck and call. Dressed in nothing but a collar, of course. Pets don’t need to be clothed around their owners.
tw // abduction
going on a date, no knowing they're planning on kidnapping you.. only seeing the rope and duct tape when you get inside their car and it's already too late to run away "don't worry, I promise I'll take good care of you"
Shh, puppy. It’s okay.
I’m here. You’re safe. It’s okay to be soft, to be small.
Just lie in my arms and feel the world melt away. Know that I’m here. That you don’t have to hide who you are. What you are.
You’re Mine. My pup, my friend, my lover, my toy.
Safe and soft.
Mine
teeth finding purchase on my shoulder and biting down, the same time my hole tightens around him as he cums inside me.
“Mine. You’re mine. All mine. To have whenever, wherever, however I want. Don’t dare argue again.”
“Yes, sir.” I can’t help but smile in return.
6/6
TW // dub con , cnc -ish, dubious consent
As I come again, I sigh as my body relaxes back into the mattress. I expect him to lay beside me, but instead he wraps his arm around my waist, pulls me close, and presses deeper.
“What are you doing?” I question.
“Having more.”
1/6
able to form words for what feels like hours, just whining and panting in response to his every move.
If I’m being honest…I can’t say I don’t love it. Feeling every inch claiming all of me. His hands running along each inch of my body. His mouth wandering along my throat,
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