My favorite line from Atomic Habits has been living in my head rent-free:
โIt doesnโt make sense to continue wanting something if youโre not willing to do what it takes to get it. If you donโt want to live the lifestyle, then release yourself from the desire. To crave the result but not the process is to guarantee disappointment.โ๏ฟผ
We were in the car after a long day, both of us exhausted. He was on the phone with a friend through the speakers, and they were talking about life, work, stressโฆ all of it.
At one point his friend joked, โMan, marriage must be tiring.โ
Without even thinking, he said, โNah. Marriage isnโt tiring. Life is tiring. My wife is the part that makes it worth it.โ
I froze in the passenger seat.
He kept driving like he didnโt just shift my entire world with one sentence.
Later that night I asked him if he really meant it.
He looked at me confused and said,
โOf course. Youโre not my responsibility. Youโre my reward.โ
And I swear, in a world where people talk about marriage like itโs a burdenโฆ
He talks about it like he won the lottery.
And thatโs all the reassurance Iโll ever need.