for me, the purest form of love is consideration. when someone thinks about how things would make u feel. pays attention to detail. holds u in regard when making decisions that could affect u. in any bond, how much they care about u can be found in how much they consider u
Being in a healthy relationship really taught me there's no such thing as 'that's just the way I am'. When you truly love someone, you work on those toxic traits, you learn to communicate, you actively listen to each others thoughts & feelings—you adjust, grow, and heal together.
everybody is shocked when you start being real serious about your bounderies, like yeah surprise, i'm not a people pleaser anymore so let's see how cool we really are