1. "You are not comparing your wife to other women. You are comparing her to a fantasy."
The therapist explained that other women are not real to you. You see them in passing. You see them on social media. You see them in your imagination. They do not have morning breath. They do not have bad days. They do not have stretch marks. They are perfect because they are imaginary. Your wife is real. She has flaws. She has bad days. She has morning breath. She is real. The therapist explained that you are comparing a real person to a fantasy. Fantasies always win.
2. "You have stopped seeing your wife as a woman."
The therapist explained that when you see your wife every day, you start to see her as a role. She is a mother. She is a caretaker. She is a manager. You stop seeing her as a woman you desire. You see her as the person who handles logistics. The therapist explained that the other women are just women. They have not been assigned roles. They are mysterious. They are exciting. Your wife has become too known.
3. "You have become too comfortable with her."
The therapist explained that comfort is the enemy of desire. You know everything about her. You know what she will say. You know how she will react. You know exactly what will happen in bed. That predictability is comfortable. It is also boring. The therapist explained that other women are not boring because you do not know them. They are still a mystery. They still have the power to surprise you.
4. "You have stopped being curious about her."
The therapist explained that you used to be curious about her. You wanted to know everything. Over time, you stopped asking. You assumed you already knew. But she changed. She grew. She had new thoughts, new fears, new dreams. You did not know because you stopped asking. The therapist explained that other women are interesting because you are curious about them. You are not curious about your wife anymore.
5. "You have stopped pursuing her."
The therapist explained that you used to chase her. You used to flirt with her. You used to make her feel like the prize. Over time, you stopped. You got comfortable. You stopped trying. The therapist explained that other women are attractive because they are still a challenge. They are still something to pursue. Your wife is no longer a challenge because you stopped seeing her that way.
6. "You have stopped seeing the value in her."
The therapist explained that you have taken her for granted. You assume she will always be there. You assume she will always love you. You assume she will always forgive you. The therapist explained that other women are attractive because they are not guaranteed. They are not certain. They are not taken for granted. Your wife is taken for granted.
7. "You are the problem, not her."
The therapist's final words were the most important. "Your wife is not less attractive. You have stopped looking at her the right way. You have stopped seeing her as a woman. You have stopped being curious about her. You have stopped pursuing her. You have taken her for granted. The problem is not her. The problem is you. You need to change how you see her. Not find a new woman to see."
8. "The solution is not a new woman. It is a new way of seeing her."
The therapist explained that the solution is not to leave her. The solution is to see her differently. Look at her the way you looked at her when you were trying to win her. Look at her body. Look at her face. Look at the way she moves. She is not boring. You have stopped looking. She is still the woman you married. You just stopped seeing her.
9. "The fantasy women are not real. Your wife is."
The therapist's final words were the most important. "The women you find attractive are not real. They are fantasies. They do not have bad days. They do not have morning breath. They do not have stretch marks. They are perfect because they are imaginary. Your wife is real. She has flaws. She has bad days. She has morning breath. She also has loved you for years. She has raised your children. She has seen you at your worst. The fantasy women have done none of that. Choose reality. Choose her."
What people report after night one:
Belly softens. Usually hard and distended, noticeably softer within minutes.
Falls asleep in 20 minutes instead of an hour.
Visibly flatter by morning even after eating late. Inflammation dropped, not weight.
Minutes 7 to 9 — abdominal massage
Lie flat. Palms below your ribs, fingers pointing down.
Press firmly and sweep both hands from ribs to pubic bone in a slow wave.
15 times.
You're physically moving lymphatic fluid carrying cortisol metabolites and inflammatory waste that's been trapped for months.
[Société] 🇨🇮 À Kokodjan Campement, dans le département de Mankono, les populations vivent au rythme d’un pont de fortune devenu leur seul moyen de liaison avec l’extérieur. Une traversée périlleuse au quotidien pour accéder à l’école, aux soins de santé et aux activités économiques. Face à cette situation, les habitants lancent un appel aux autorités. Reportage de Yafolo Soro De Zahana. #RTIinfo
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Enfin une mesure dissuasive pour les patrons des sociétés de transport. La société transport dont le chauffeur indélicat est à la base de la mort plusieurs personnes, DIARRA TRANSPORT a été interdite de transport sur toute l’étendue du territoire ivoirien. Un exemple.
#Civ La compagnie "Diarra Transport" , impliquée dans l'accident ayant causé 39morts sur le fleuve Bafing, est fermée jusqu’à nouvel ordre par décision des autorités compétentes.