@Salsabeela1 وردت جزئية مثيرة في ذلك الكتاب و ذات دلالة عميقة تتلخص في ان الكلاب تنبح الغريب حتى لو كان اتي بالخير وكأنه عدو و ترحب بمن تعرف حتى لو كان لا خير فيه
I finally understand what Machiavelli meant when he said, "Never play fair in a game where others cheat." It doesn't mean become evil. It means stop being naive. Stop bringing honesty to people who study manipulation, stop giving access to people who weaponize closeness, and stop expecting clean hands from people who already showed you they'll throw dirt. Sometimes wisdom is not revenge. Sometimes wisdom is learning the rules of the room before the room uses your goodness against you.
My favourite quote of all time was a statement Van Gogh made to his brother in a letter, that
' If I am worth anything later, I am worth something now. For wheat is wheat, even if people think it's grass in the beginning '. Our worth is inherent and unchangeable, whether people see it or not. So keep doing you. Your people will get you.
The older i get, the more i realize that someone making time for you is one of the clearest signs they care. Everyone is busy. Everyone has responsibilities and their own battles to fight. So when someone consistently chooses to spend their time with you, checks on you, and makes space for you in their life, it means something. time is one thing we can never get back, and people don't give it away lightly.
one of my old psychiatrist's absolute greatest hits: the closer someone is to you, the more you treat them as you treat yourself. it's as though they eventually enter the sphere of your inner world.
we have to stop being cruel to ourselves or we will be cruel to others, in time. i don't make the rules and i don't obey them and my loved ones have paid the price.