B2K is for when you had a crush and wanted to get their number. Cute.
But …. Pretty Ricky is for getting fingered before your mama get home from work 😭😭 #verzuz
If you’ve dated an anxious person, you’d know this is funny cos yea, Avoidants are bad but you see anxious people, they’re worse.
Avoidants control themselves when they get triggered, anxious people try to control you, it’s crazy. You could be going through it at work and an anxious person would hit you with “so you’ve forgotten me Abi”. They don’t know how to communicate, so they accuse.. “You didn’t call me today” “You’re not taking me seriously” “You’re making me feel like I’m disturbing you” all so you’ll apologize, they’d get that dopamine hit to signal “I’m not being abandoned” and life’s great again for them. It’s crazy cl
disappearing on your partner after conflict when they need clarity or closeness is not giving yourself space. it is emotional abuse. the anxiety and abandonment wounds it creates are very real
i have outgrown the friendship where i am invisible while you are living your life and suddenly visible the moment you need emotional support, a favor, or someone to fill the empty space. that dynamic is not friendship. it is just access and i am done providing it for free.
There is a whole generation of men out here who are absolutely exhausted from being the "transitional guy." They come into your life, absorb all the trauma your toxic ex left behind, provide stability, and love you gently. But because your brain is still addicted to chaos, you mistake his consistency for a lack of passion. You drain his peace to heal yourself, and then abandon him because there isn't enough "drama" to keep you entertained. Men are constantly being used as emotional handymen to fix damage they didn't cause, only to be discarded the second the foundation is stable. It is pure emotional vampirism.