Adulthood humbles you. It’ll turn you into a prayer warrior without you even noticing. As you grow, you start to understand that nothing in this life works without God!!
When I was in school, I did not think my life would turn into anything worth mentioning. After matric, I had made peace with the idea of working as a cashier at the local Edgars in East London on Oxford Street. (They never called me back after I dropped off my CV. So Milky Lane was next.) My mother, of course, had bigger dreams for me than I had for myself. But that’s a story for another day.
Why did I think life would just drift into nothingness? Well, throughout most of school, I only had one badge on my blazer. My name. Eventually, I got a second one. Library Monitor (It's that black badge on blazer). I would look at the kids whose blazers were heavy with honours and colours as if they came from another world. I assumed their futures were sorted and mine was not.
But life had other plans. I found my way into advertising. I won the first Gold Cannes Lion awarded to a black South African, along with Ntsikelelo Nukwa. Then came the Gold Eagle. Then the elusive Black Eagle, which hadn’t been awarded in over a decade.
More Cannes Lions followed. One Shows. Loeries. Other awards too. Eventually, I started writing and one of my books was even shortlisted for the Alan Paton Prize.
Sometimes you'll think it's a mistake. That you're an imposter. You don't belong. Other times other people may think you don't deserve to be where you are. Doesn't matter. Keep at it.
So here’s what I’ve learned: even if you have no idea where what you’re doing is taking you, keep doing it. Keep showing up. Keep learning. Life may take the long way around, but it gets you there. Some people are lucky, they’ve always known where they’re going. Some of us aren’t. But even when you don’t know, life sometimes finds a way to figure it out for you. Just don’t stop.
What I am trying to say is this: be inspired by others, but only ever compete against yourself. You are not running their race. You’re running yours.
You’re gonna be ok. Things always work out, not always the way you imagined, but they do work out.
Most importantly, never forget where you come from, nor the long road it took to get you there. And take nothing for granted.
One last thing. This may seem ironic considering the trophies, while accolades are great to have, there are things that are far more important. What really matters, no trophy can capture. Because what lasts is how you lived, who you lifted, your resilience, your humility, and whether you stayed true to yourself.
Trophies gather dust. Character doesn’t.
“You are already someone. You are already something.”
Anele reposted this chat we had many years ago this morning on the ’gram. It’s from the most frequently quoted portion of one of my books, These Things Really Do Happen To Me.
It’s a good reminder for myself too.
empathy burnout is real. after all these years of understanding the people around you, trying to put yourself on their situation, putting others first before you, and now you're drained & have became indifferent.
I highly recommend having a clingy and lovey dovey partner. Life is too short to be with people who act like it's painful to show that you love someone.
one of the safest feelings ever is being genuinely liked just because you’re you. when someone has a complete fondness and soft spot for you simply because you exist. it’s chef’s kiss really.
Yes umjolo umsangano but yoh guys, having someone you can communicate with the whole day; who checks on you in the mornings to see how you slept, checks on you during the day to see how your day is going, checks on you before you sleep & listens to you venting. That’s everything.