โWhen a woman outgrows her old life, she often walks forward alone.โ
There is a loneliness that belongs uniquely to women who are healing.
You start shedding old versions of yourself โ
the people-pleaser,
the one who overgave,
the one who tolerated mistreatment,
the one who silenced her own voice to keep the peace.
You begin to want deeper conversations, softer love, gentler mornings, more aligned friendships.
You want truth, not guessing games.
You want reciprocity, not emotional labor disguised as connection.
But the moment you step into this higher version of yourself,
you notice the distance.
The friends still living in chaos no longer feel like home.
The men who relied on your self-sacrificing nature no longer have access to you.
The circles where you once fit now feel too small.
This loneliness is not a punishment
โit is a passage.
It is your soul expanding faster than your surroundings.
It is the clearing of space for connections aligned with the woman you are becoming.
This loneliness teaches you:
how to soothe yourself
how to enjoy your own company
how to fill your own cup
how to trust your own wisdom
how to stop settling for half-love
how to stop shrinking just to belong
Eventually, the loneliness lifts.
Not because you go back to what you outgrew,
but because new people find youโpeople whose hearts resonate with yours.
Growth is a lonely season, yes.
But it is also the gateway to a life overflowing with people who see you, choose you, and match you.
~ Ancestral Healing
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๐ฆ๐ผ๐๐๐ต ๐๐ณ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ป ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ๐ .
Here is how a *๐ฅ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ฌ,๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ฌ* ๐น๐ผ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ณ๐ฟ๐ผ๐บ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ป๐ฑ๐๐๐๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฎ๐น ๐๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐น๐ผ๐ฝ๐บ๐ฒ๐ป๐ ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฝ๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป (๐๐๐) helped the Greyvenstein family grow two iconic South African Brands.
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โผ๏ธ๐๐ฅ Goosebumps......above and beyond....tears... on the ground......Advocate Sello SC, I say: Thank you.. ๐ ๐ ๐ ๐ Unprecedentedโผ๏ธโผ๏ธโผ๏ธ
#MadlangaCommission
Things I've learned in 2025:
KwaXhosa is a settler colony. Most ppl who identify as Xhosa are not Xhosa ppl, but belong to different tribes that settled in that region.
The Shangane & Ndebele people are "Zulu" people who settled elsewhere, due to their leaders. SoShangane & Mzilikazi were Shaka's military generals who were sent on missions & disobeyed him.
The Xitsonga people are split into 2 groups: Shangaan & Tsonga.
AmaNdebele were split by colonial borders, with some falling into Zimbabwe & some into South Africa... but they are all one family.
Khoi San is more complicated than we were taught, and these indigenous South Africans are split into more tribes than just Khoe & San. There are Griqua, Korana, Namaqua, Gonaqua & others.
The Apartheid govt shoved everyone who was not Black, White or Indian... into "Coloured", erroneously so.
Not all Coloureds are from the mixing of races. Some are South Asian, some are indigenous African (like the Khoi San). Many of them have no White ancestry.
KwaZulu Coloureds were born of a British & Zulu mix. They speak English, not Afrikaans.
Coloureds in SA include ancestry from Ethiopia, Kenya, Mozambique, Angola, Sri Lanka, Indonesia, Madagascar, Philippines, Spain, India, Holland, Germany, England, Scotland, France & other countries.
The Zulu kingdom is just over 200 years old. It is a colonial state, with Shaka of the smaller Zulu clan, forcing other clans to join the Zulus into building a consolidated kingdom.
The BaPedi are split into different groups, with different languages. Just as many so-called Xhosa people also have their own languages that neither Xhosa nor any of the other official languages.
The Colonial government split the provinces into tribal groups for ease of management, without actually understanding the different tribes within the groups.
Moshoeshoe (Lepoqo) was a self-appointed king & founder of the BaSotho kingdom of the mountains. He belonged to the Bakoena clan.
The BaSotho have a French influence in their written language & their dress-code.
Many of the South African Christian church groups wear uniform that mimic different military uniforms of the United Kingdom.
The Zulu Kings bow down to the Anglican Church, as they are British subjects & serve the British crown. Hence, being ordained by the Anglican bishop & dressing in British royal attire.
There is still so much that we don't understand about the history of the BaNtu people, the KaLanga people, the Nguni/Ngoni people, the Khwe people, & how they were disrupted by colonial forces.
I'll end here. ๐๐ฝ
Iโve been going city to city helping Black founders get access to resources and capital even though we receive less than 1% VC funding. The companies are strong and theyโre just getting started!