@yemicrown5@dedoyinajayi Worst advice … and people wonder why people cheat after marriage🙄It is partly because you signed up & realized the meal you ordered ain’t what you wanna eat, and you can’t starve honey! Talk about it BEFORE MARRIAGE please and thank you.
@shumbakadzi_zim Women have joined “male dominated fields” … males always cheating & getting away with it😒now when women do it you all get overly emotional to even day dream murder. Best you all start to experience the bitter dish you like to serve but seems hard for you to eat your own dish!
Major cheat code in life: One priority per day. Not three. Not five. One. Pick the single thing that, if completed, makes the day a win regardless of what else happens.
Protect two hours for it. Most people go entire weeks without finishing anything that actually matters because everything feels equally urgent.
If two people start a company and one contributes 90% of the capital while the other contributes just 10%, when the business starts struggling, who do you think is more likely to walk away first? Exactly, Now apply that same principle to your relationships
A woman is expected to look like an instagram model porn star. Be amazing at sex yet be a virgin. Pay 50/50 yet make less than him. Cook and clean while working full time. And he’s fat ugly and has a small penis and is awkward as fuck. Men bring absolutely nothing
To be a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. Not in a dramatic sense, but in the ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate bad behaviors. You cannot grow if you keep pretending you're completely innocent.
A man is going to be who he is, no matter what you bring to him. You can be beautiful, solid, have your own, carry yourself right and still end up dealing with somebody who just not built to handle you. You can’t love a man into acting right or upgrade his mindset by being a better woman.
@KhananiShingan1 A married man once bought two identical unisex perfumes for 400 each. Wife had very strong sense of smell. One bottle gave to wife. Other gave to mistress so when he was around her, she’d smell just like the one he gave her wife🧐They act dumb but these menhella smart in cheating
Adulting is realizing;
1. You will die, and most people won’t care after a while.
2. People use you until you’re no longer useful.
3. Most people secretly want you to fail.
4. One day you’ll wish you started today.
5. Most people fake happiness while dying inside.
6. No one is coming to save you.
7. You’ll be judged no matter what you do.
8. Your health is your greatest wealth.
9. Happiness is temporary—discipline is permanent.
10. Success takes longer than you think.
11. No one respects weakness, even if they sympathize.
12. Complaining changes nothing.
13. Not everyone you love will love you back.
14. Money won’t solve all your problems—but it solves most.
15. Social media lies to you every day.
16. You’re replaceable at your job.
17. Life is unfair—get used to it.
18. One day, you’ll run out of days.
19. Regret hurts more than failure.
20. Nobody cares about your excuses. Work harder
The earlier you understand this, the better and easier your life gets.
Give your mind a break. From people. From phones. From the constant hustle of life. Spend some alone time just with yourself. Do nothing. Be bored. Stare at a crack in the wall. Look out the window. Watch how shadows move. Listen to a piece of music that's 300 years old. Read Hegel. Read Aristotle. Read Dostoevsky. The minds that are still relevant today. Slow down enough to experience things deeply again. Don't consume something just because it's trending. Be loyal to your own curiosities. Your own interests. Your own idiosyncrasies. If you want to live a life that feels alive, protect the parts of yourself this world keeps trying to distract you from.
Ppl will admire your depth until it’s time to swim in it. They’ll praise your wisdom until it holds them accountable… love your light until it exposes their shadows. They’ll crave your energy until they realise it’s not free.
Going to leave you with this tonight:
The best thing you can do for yourself is actively increase your surface area for luck to hit you. Go outside, travel more, go to new cates, museums, events, take a new route home, go for hikes, see cities, countrysides, take your notebook, speak to people, ask questions, start businesses - go on more side quests. You can literally just do things, and the more you do, the more serendipity and synchronicity will find you.
before you go to bed tonight i just want to remind you that you’re going to be okay and you’re going to figure it out. your heart is going to heal. your soul is going to find its home, it’s purpose. you’re going to experience beautiful things. you’re going to love deeply, and find peace within yourself. your whole life is still ahead of you, you have time. Please just trust the process
Some are starting relationships. Others are ending them. Another invite of a wedding sits on your inbox 📥 while you have a friend struggling with dating. Maybe someone just quit their job. But the dinner you just went out to celebrated a promotion. One bought a house so far away. Another is struggling to pay rent. You have a friend that is grieving. While the other just welcomed a baby. And the other friend just got a new pet. Some might just be starting therapy while others are traveling to find themselves. It’s realizing that maybe happily ever after is not some place to arrive at but rather these stories all intertwined coming together. Maybe it’s more about the journey than this grand arriving. Because we are all in different places, part of different races just trying to find our way home again. And maybe that home is simply the people that help us get there while striving to be our happiest best self as we navigate the complexity of it all.
I finally understand what Machiavelli meant when he said, “Never play fair in a game where others cheat.” It doesn’t mean become evil. It means stop being naive. Stop bringing honesty to people who study manipulation, stop giving access to people who weaponize closeness, and stop expecting clean hands from people who already showed you they’ll throw dirt. Sometimes wisdom is not revenge. Sometimes wisdom is learning the rules of the room before the room uses your goodness against you.