Marriage aside, how many people in Nigeria are not struggling financially? Is it only the rich that are getting married every weekend? This place is not real life fa,
When it comes to marriage, culture and tradition still have a higher hand than religion. And because these culture practices favour them, they'd rather follow them than religion. They forget that that religion will favour them in this dunya and the akhirah.
Oladélé, this is the logical next step from the conversation we had yesterday. If you still remember, I argued about how we subconsciously shrink God to fit our finite human clock. Today, your question shows how we shrink God to fit human utility.
The question of "what is their purpose" assumes that the universe is centered around human beings. We subconsciously think that if humans cannot live on a planet, build houses on it, or use its resources, then it is a waste of space. However, the universe was not created to be a human terrarium. It is theocentric. That is, it is centered around the Creator, not us as humans.
To make it even clearer, think about it like this. A great king does not build a big palace because he intends to sleep in every single room. He builds it to reflect the scale of his power, his majesty, his wealth, and his sovereignty.
If we apply this analogy to an infinite Creator, what does that tells you? It means that if God only created one tiny rock called Earth suspended in an empty void, it would not reflect infinite majesty.
The terrifying vastness of space, the billions of galaxies, the brightness of stars, and the countless planets are there to force the human mind to look up and realize how incredibly small we are, and how immensely powerful He is.
As a Muslim, I am forced to reflect how the Almighty God in the Quran addresses our human arrogance directly. In Surah Ghafir 40:57, Allah states that the creation of the heavens and the earth is far greater than the creation of mankind, but most people do not know.
If we reflect on this, we would see that we are just a fraction of the story. The rest of the cosmos is fulfilling its own purpose and glorifying Him in ways we do not comprehend.
Having said that, even on a purely physical and mechanical level, those other planets in our solar system serve a direct purpose for our survival.
Take Jupiter and Saturn for specifics. Those huge gas giants act as cosmic shields. Their immense gravity pulls in comets and rogue asteroids that would have otherwise struck Earth and wiped out life long ago. They are standing guard in the dark so you can live down here.
God did not create anything as a meaningless accessory. Every single rock floating in the dark has a purpose. We are just too focused on ourselves to see the broader architecture.
Allah knows best.
Hello Lola, I am a Muslim, and our spiritual tradition has a very deep approach to raising children. I want to share some tips from our scholars that will be beneficial to you regardless of your faith.
First of all, our theology teaches the concept of Fitrah. This means that every child is born with a pure heart. At six years old, she is not a criminal mastermind. She does not have a wicked soul.
If she doesn’t have all these, then what is happening? The truth is that she is just lacking impulse control and testing boundaries. By this, if you look at her as a manipulator, you will fight her. However, if you look at her as a pure soul making mistakes, you will be able to guide her.
Secondly, for every problem anyone faces today, it has been solved in history. The only problem is how to locate them.
A classical scholar named Al-Ghazali wrote about child psychology over 900 years ago in his famous book “Ihya Ulum al-Din.” In his section on disciplining children, he gave a practical rule I want you to adopt going forward.
He advised that parents should never push a child into a corner where they are forced to lie. When you ask a question you already know the answer to, her survival instinct kicks in. She cries and she lies to defend herself because she is scared of you. Stop interrogating her. Just look at her and state the fact. Say, I know you took this, and we are going to return it right now.
Again, another scholar and sociologist Ibn Khaldun addressed this exact behavior in his masterpiece titled: “Al-Muqaddimah.” He warned that when a child is raised with harsh punishment, they learn deceit, trickery, and lying to protect themselves. This is why she is covering her tracks and crying to manipulate you. The fear of a harsh reaction is making her a better liar.
Lola, do not attach a label to her. Do not ever call her a thief. If you attack her identity instead of her action, she will internalize it and grow into that dark label. Tell her the action is wrong but protect her dignity.
Make her return the item. Do not fall for the tears. Hold her hand, walk her back to wherever she took it from, and make her hand it back and apologize. The discomfort of returning a stolen item teaches a much better lesson than beating her will ever do.
Finally, I don’t know if you are a Muslim, but never underestimate the power of your own words. In our faith, we believe the prayer of a parent for a child goes straight to God without any barrier. Pray over her. Pray for her heart to be content and for her character to be straight.
Keep doing this consistently and the habit will break.
Allah knows best.
Iran has just done Nigeria and Africa a massive favour BTW.
By removing any shred of residual legitimacy left on the American empire's naked body, it has made it much harder to sell that "invade Nigeria to 'protect the Christians' " bullshit.
Nobody is ever going to buy the narrative that the guy who was just threatening to "end an entire civilisation" by committing the greatest war crime in human history against millions of civilians, is trying to save any goddamn Christian in Darkest Africa. That agenda is now dead and can now rest in peace.
Closing the Strait of Hormuz for nearly 6 weeks has also had the fortunate unintended consequence of forcing African countries to seek closer energy cooperation with each other. The number of African supply deals signed by the Dangote refinery over the past month would have taken years to achieve without Iran's intervention.
Allowing the war to end now and opening the Strait of Hormuz so that US tankers can pass through makes Nigerian oil less critical to the Star Spangled Motherfuckers, which makes a military invasion to 'protect Christians' all the less likely.
Every Nigerian who knows their arse from their elbow needs to visit their local Iranian embassy today to say thank you.
If you're a parent or intending, you might find this drive helpful. It has complete audio Qurān for kids as well as poems and songs without music in both English and Arabic and updated from time to time. May Allah accept the humble effort from those who did the i'dād.
I will post the link in the comments. Baarakallaahu feekum.
THE REGISTRY IS A TRAP
The tweet says "One man down," and honestly, it is a tragedy.
Most Muslim men walk into that office thinking they are merely documenting their union. They have no idea they are actually signing away their religious identity.
When a Muslim man signs under the Marriage Act, two dangerous things happen immediately.
First, He Handcuffs Himself.
Because by signing that paper, he voluntarily criminalizes what Allah made lawful. Under the Registry, taking a second wife is no longer a choice; it is a crime called Bigamy.
He effectively tells the State: "If I ever try to practice the Sunnah of polygamy, please put me in jail for 5 to 7 years."
Second, He Secularizes His Death.
This is the part that ruins families. A Statutory Marriage often removes a man’s wealth from the jurisdiction of Sharia and places it under English Law (Administration of Estates).
If he dies tomorrow, his wealth might not be shared according to the Quran. His mother might get nothing. His father might get nothing. The "Statutory Wife" takes priority over the Divine Command.
This begs me to wonder how he was convinced to do this in the first place? But one thing is sure: They didn't convince him with superior logic; they defeated him with his own ignorance.
He thinks he is proving his love. But in reality, he is dismantling his rights.
He is definitely down.
Allah knows best
@naffaish01 You said you were earning 28k then though. Was that not why the previous man didn’t marry you because he didn’t want a “liability”?
Just wondering how you gathered the amount in 1 year.
It's been 19 hours, and no Muslim has been able to beat their chest and say "Allah loves me" they have done all but say it and back it up with their cooked up recitals.
Just post 25 verses that says nothing about Allah loving you or anyone in particular, just abstracts about Allah loving those who do good.
It's simple, Allah isn't capable of loving.
She said this because, in her environment, nine was the age of biological maturity.
This is why Imam Malik explained in Al-Mudawwana that marriage capability is based on Al-Taqah (physical capacity), not just a number. The Prophet (SAW) waited three years, from age six to nine, specifically for this biological milestone to be met.
In all, I must say that the sister’s argument about "Arabic shorthand" claiming "six" implies "sixteen" is linguistically absurd and has no precedent in the Arabic language. If Aisha meant sixteen, she would have said sixteen.
When we try to fix Aisha's age to 19, we are judging 7th-century Arabian biology by 21st-century European standards. It is anachronistic. Aisha (RA) entered the Prophet's household young, and because of that, she absorbed knowledge like a sponge and became the greatest female scholar of this Ummah. That is a badge of honor, not a source of shame.
We accept the narrative of Bukhari and Muslim over the calculations of modern YouTubers or second degree seeking Islamic content creators. We follow the text, not the trend.
If you aren’t still convinced, you can call for a debate. I am ready.
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