My therapist told me:
People's negative traits are usually the opposite of their love languages.
Not asking for help.....Acts of Service
Isolating…..Quality Time
Avoidance……..Physical Touch
Impulsive Shopping......Gift Giving
Shutting down .….Words of Affirmation
Nothing ruins a relationship faster than watching your partner show up for everyone else in ways they never show up for you. It proves they have the capacity but not the desire to do it for you.
nobody talks about how exhausting it is to live in that space between “things will get better” and “i can’t handle this anymore.” it’s like your emotions are constantly swinging. leaving you both hopeful and defeated in the same day
it takes a lot for me to officially wash my hands with somebody, i am a forgiving person like no matter how bad you do me i will forgive you, and give you another chance to redeem yourself, so if it ever gets to the point to where i say fuck you, just know i gave all the energy i had & it's a wrap.
as i get older, i’m starting to realize that the purest form of love is consideration. when someone thinks about how things would make you feel. in any bond how much they care about you is found in how much they consider you.
My tolerance has a limit. I'm a patient person. I give second chances. I believe people can change. I will absorb your bad day. I will forgive your mistakes. But do not mistake my patience for permission to disrespect me. There is a line.
When you cross it - when the disrespect becomes a pattern, when the apologies are empty - I will not make a scene. I will simply stop. I will stop caring, I will stop trying, and I will stop being available to you. My silence is the final answer.
That's not a threat, that's a promise. I've given you the space to grow, to learn, and to show up. I've given you my heart, my trust, and my loyalty. And if you choose to waste it, if you choose to take me for granted, then I'll let you go.
I'll walk away quietly, without drama, without anger, without looking back. Because my self-worth isn't tied to your actions, and my peace isn't dependent on your behavior. I'll preserve me, I'll protect me, and I'll prioritize me.
And if that's the end of us, then that's the end of us. But know this: I gave you my all, and you chose otherwise.