Somebody is going to surprise me. Somebody is going to outperform expectations. Somebody is going to have a heroic drive. Somebody is going to make a mistake and learn from it. These are the moments I love anyway. Underneath all the racing, I'm not obsessed with collecting wins.
It used to be that if you were crazy, they would force you into an asylum.ย Nowadays if you're crazy, they let you open a social media account and even run for president.
What role do I actually play in your life? If you don't need me, why am I here? Do you seek me out when you don't have to? Am I part of your happiness, or just part of your routine?
You asked me to move states, leave what little support system I have, change my healthcare, work on transportation/getting a license, and build a new life beside you, it's reasonable to want evidence that you're actively making room for me in your current life first.