Was talking to a friend about this today. We are careful with our own time, love, attention, resources, but we feel entitled to everybody else's. I like what Charlie Munger said: "the safest way to try and get what you want is to try and deserve what you want."
Unlike mine: if you're angry and decide to call my name, one of two things will happen... either the anger will have left you before you finish, or you'll be even angrier by the time you're done saying it.
This!!! When I studied Adire even further, I realized our foremothers understood the knowledge of natural chemistry and they applied this in their art works and the dyeing process. These people took into account, details about acidity and humidity in making textile.
I woke up with a startle last night. It was a pleasant dream. As I re-oriented myself, the details of the dream started revealing itself.
I was a wedding guest at @cremechic11’s wedding. She was getting married to a 6’4” tall ebony man.
It looked at the time. It was 12.45am, right in the middle of dress like your miracle something something.
My friend, who is a graduate architect, wrote is final year project on the psychological effects of colours.
I explained to Nigerians why monochrome colours like black and white are not good for the brain, they said I was chatting shit🤣🤣.
Negotiate like a donkey.
Act stupid. Ask dumb questions. Be a bit confused. Do not show how smart you are.
When they talk about things, apologize for not quite understanding and ask them to explain various details again.
Frame your requests as if they had just occurred to you