as you approach your 30s it’s very very important that you acquire a “boring” interest that will develop into an obsession as you age. local water policy, shipping containers, composting, amateur geology, metal detectors, collecting old coins
I guess the only way you could regain the lost respect is when you exhibit a different behaviour and remain consistent in your act and make the other person feel like they’re important to you not just by swearing upon things and making new promises, why not follow thru wat u say
The most dangerous point is when you’d lose respect for them. They’d swear on almost everything to make you believe that they’re sane now and are a better person but would repeat the exact same behaviour under similar circumstances again.