I honestly believe that many young, independent, and fiery ministers today would be more productive for God if they had remained Prayer leaders in their churches, but too many people want to hold a microphone, wear a suit, and stand on teaching pulpits.
And too many people underrate the impact of prayers behind the scenes.
I once had a client in Abuja. Mid thirties. Soft spoken. Very disciplined guy.
He worked in construction procurement. Not flashy money, but stable. Rent paid in Maitama. Car was clean, not new. Children in good schools. Life was not loud, but it was steady.
His wife was beautiful. Smart too. He met her when he was still managing a small project site in Kubwa he told me this. She married the potential in him, not abundance. And for years, she stood by him.
Then Abuja entered her phone.
Gym friends in Wuse 2. Instagram. Weekend brunches. Women whose husbands were senators, oil contractors, politicians. Soft life conversations entered her living room without knocking.
Comparison quietly became her daily diet. She started saying things like; βIs this all we will be?β, βOther women are traveling every monthβ, βYou are too comfortable.β
The man noticed the shift. He tried to adjust. Took more risks. Took loans. Overworked himself. Still, Abuja was always showing her someone doing better.
One day, she met a man who checked all the boxes she thought she deserved. Big SUV. Driver. Access. Promises.
She left her marriage with two kids for that upgrade.
Six months later, the illusion cracked.
The man was married. She was a side arrangement. The money came with control. Silence. Disrespect. She could not post him. Could not complain. Could not demand.
By the time she wanted to return, the door was closed. Her former husband had healed quietly. Focused on work. Focused on the kids. Peace replaced pressure.
Today, she struggles with regret. Not because she left, but because she realized too late that hypergamy without self awareness does not upgrade a life. It often destroys it.
Abuja is not dangerous because of money.
It is dangerous because it constantly convinces people that what they have is never enough.
And some people ruin good lives chasing a lifestyle that was never meant to be theirs.
What am I saying? Lifestyle inflation ruins more homes than poverty.
The moment your desires grow faster than your income, pressure enters everything.
Not every βsoft lifeβ you see is real or sustainable.
Many are funded by debt, politics, or temporary access.
People are trying to reduce this to βDangote vs Faroukβ like itβs a personal quarrel. Itβs not.
$5m for secondary education means β¦1.2 billion+ over 6 years, or β¦309m per child every year. Thatβs the kind of money many Nigerian states donβt allocate to entire schools annually.
Switzerland is expensive, yes, but it is not magical.
If these figures are accurate, then Nigerians are owed a clear explanation of where the money came from. Public office is not a shield from scrutiny.