why are africans happy to do traditional weddings but disown the spiritual practices of the same people who curated the traditions. often the rituals are correlating with..the spirituality. this is incongruence!
my mom was telling me today that there's no disappointment when you accept things or people for what they are. but you don’t always have to cut people off when they don’t meet your expectations sometimes you just have to adjust the relationship + accept their capacity.
date sweet men. men who are calm. men who can articulate themselves. men who are soft spoken. men who are patient with you. men who respect both you and themselves . men who are kind to you. men that are gentle. men who have self control.
The way people speak of homeless folk is horrible, usually. But what’s great struck me here is how casual she says they are just a part of the community.
Idk. I realized that most of the time when I hear humanizing language it’s in a very specific context. Not hers.