Understand the driving force behind your desires. At face value, ambition seems honorable, but if you read between the lines you will find a lot of greed, guilt, lust..etc.
Good people have high levels of empathy, but once that empathy is exhausted, they switch to a state of objective observation. They see you for exactly who you are, without the filter of their love. This is why their anger feels so cold, it is the absence of the warmth you took for granted
True love isn't conditional, but trust is.
You don't stop loving someone because of their sins, but you do stop trusting them.
And if you can't trust them, you can't build with them.
So when you said you'd walk through hell for your love, this probably isn't what you imagined.