@sindivanzyl Typical case of "when love hurts". When it does hurt, give space and love from afar. Your son and hubby need you more than she needs you. She is an adult and can take care of herself. Focus on your health, hubby and son. Ignore her. Don't feel guilty for choosing them over her.
@sindivanzyl He is taking paternity leave to assist with HIS child. That means he wants to be with HIS child! Ano seems more upset about cheating and therefore feels the child does not deserve his attention.
@sindivanzyl The law says "the employee who is a parent to the child" qualifies & if you are adopting a child under the age of 2. The company can only apply the law. The cheating has got nothing to do with them. You also can't stop someone who chooses to be there for his child.
@sindivanzyl He is projecting his own fears of not being financially stable onto her. He is creating negative stories about her to make himself feel better. He needs to face and deal with his money wound. She needs to stop feeding the monster in him and stop feeling guilty.
@kweku_q@sindivanzyl Fully agree. We were once on holiday and neighbour came and accused us of noise. We asked him for a sound meter reading and further said he should bring the reader's calibration certificate with. He never came back.