My Secret Life - Partner of a sex offender

One of a growing number women who find themselves in the unexpected and unwanted position of being a partner of a sex offender.

#theknock #bekind

[My Secret Life - Partner of a sex offender @MySoSecretLife]

As the titles suggests - A brutal rollercoaster of emotions on a recent visit
https://t.co/kJzsuz5OBd

[My Secret Life - Partner of a sex offender @MySoSecretLife]

@HollySurvivorA @MemesKind I not sure if you mean 'they: the offenders or the family. If thr family then I urge please to watch this video https://t.co/inmoepqp4Z

[My Secret Life - Partner of a sex offender @MySoSecretLife]

This made me want to cry. Changing his name was one of the things I felt would help us move on & build a life. He doesn't want to change it because he's a prolific SO, but so he can earn money & build a life. All the things that are shown to reduce reoffending.

[Sharron Davies HoL MBE @sharrond62]

At last common sense & safeguarding women & children are put first. Suella Braverman to ban sex offenders from changing name and gender https://t.co/Kxnlpj8oMw

[Sky News @SkyNews]

'Why I stayed with my husband after he was caught with child abuse images'

@kvittozzi investigates those living with a sex offender.

Read more: https://t.co/s4rfe3kmra

[My Secret Life - Partner of a sex offender @MySoSecretLife]

The ongoing imprisonment of people on IPP completely under values human life - Their lives being treated so frivolously.

[Faith Spear FRSA @fmspear]

Remember to show your support on social media for those campaigning hard for the vital change in re-sentencing all those trapped within the #IPP sentence.

Thank you

TOGETHER we can end this injustice.

@PeterStefanovi2
https://t.co/zBw0Wnj0l0

[My Secret Life - Partner of a sex offender @MySoSecretLife]

A rare & insightful article about life after prision & on probation https://t.co/Rkd3q0zxUF

[My Secret Life - Partner of a sex offender @MySoSecretLife]

Feeling in a very strange place.
There is a general air of excitement in the build up to Christmas celebrations - I've got a spring in my step but counting down to an entirely different day.

[My Secret Life - Partner of a sex offender @MySoSecretLife]

@WriterHBlack 1 hour & 50 minutes to get an appointment. There are so so many that waiting on the line like this wouldn't be an option. Or wouldn't have the flexibility to attend the very limited appointments available

[My Secret Life - Partner of a sex offender @MySoSecretLife]

1) In the queue for a Dr appointment (position > 30 having already been cut off after being in the queue for 20 minutes). I can deal with this, I am WFH, no childen needing to be fed & taken to school & a understanding employer,
It must be incredibly difficult for so many

[My Secret Life - Partner of a sex offender @MySoSecretLife]

@WriterHBlack 3) A fourth episode from prison officers perspective too, there is a huge story there too. I've recently read Behind These Doors

[The Justice Gap @justicegap.bsky.social @JusticeGap]

The annual report published by the independent monitoring board at HMP Bristol has concluded Bristol prison is 'not fit for purpose' after finding high levels of violence and self-harm along with overcrowding.

https://t.co/R9ZSehXWBE

[My Secret Life - Partner of a sex offender @MySoSecretLife]

@LockedUpLiving Agreed.The lack of space to be emotionally open & vulnerable is also very hard. I recently spent a week sharing a room with a stranger & had a taste of what it is like to not be able to talk freely on the phone, it was stressful & restrictly our ability to be emotionally intimate

[My Secret Life - Partner of a sex offender @MySoSecretLife]

Timely listening to this. I was on the phone to my partner with the "Prison sound scape" in the background

He's done so well to stay sane

"It just gradually wears your soul down" the "lack of nourishing human relationships & healthy touch", "the lack of anything positive to do

[LockedUpLiving @LockedUpLiving]

How does a posh man get on in prison? Are they vulnerable? This week we meet with journalist and PhD student, @ShipleyWrites

https://t.co/1HkfmyotE1

[My Secret Life - Partner of a sex offender @MySoSecretLife]

Sub 30 days until release.
What's your advise for supporting some one emotional on release?

[Billy Binion @billybinion]

In 2003, @meaghan_ybos was raped by a stranger at knifepoint.

Now, she's trying to end sex offender registration across the US.

Her reasoning might surprise you. I talked to her about it here: https://t.co/R6LvoqkmhD

[My Secret Life - Partner of a sex offender @MySoSecretLife]

Thank you for sharing my story. Mine is just one of many thousand, many of whom the impact of #theknock has been much, much greater than it has to me

[Jeremy Indika @jeremyindika]

The partner of a sex offender has written to me and asked me to share…

I am one of a growing number of women who find themselves in the unexpected and unwanted position of being a partner of a sex offender and I am here to share my journey and this secret part of my life.

He had a conversation with an adult about sexually abusing a child. Thankfully the adult was a decoy police officer & there was no child. He's now in prison & has a SHPO & is on the SOR for life.

I’ve kept this a secret from most people because of the shame & fear of repercussions. It's been lonely & isolating, impacted my physical & mental health & ended our IVF journey. The day I found out I was transported to a parallel universe that made no sense.

I've come to understand more about these online crimes. I'm disgusted by what he did. I wanted to throw him into the gutter. Banish him as evil. But I couldn't see the monster I was supposed to see.

I made no promises but we've made it this far. He's had private therapy & we understand how the conversation came to be. I hope we can rebuild our life on release & he has the opportunity to positively contribute to society.

I have written a blog to communicate the challenges of this life, such as recent prison visits and sentencing - https://t.co/FjU97PF4Gg

[Jeremy Indika @jeremyindika]

The partner of a sex offender has written to me and asked me to share…

I am one of a growing number of women who find themselves in the unexpected and unwanted position of being a partner of a sex offender and I am here to share my journey and this secret part of my life.

He had a conversation with an adult about sexually abusing a child. Thankfully the adult was a decoy police officer & there was no child. He's now in prison & has a SHPO & is on the SOR for life.

I’ve kept this a secret from most people because of the shame & fear of repercussions. It's been lonely & isolating, impacted my physical & mental health & ended our IVF journey. The day I found out I was transported to a parallel universe that made no sense.

I've come to understand more about these online crimes. I'm disgusted by what he did. I wanted to throw him into the gutter. Banish him as evil. But I couldn't see the monster I was supposed to see.

I made no promises but we've made it this far. He's had private therapy & we understand how the conversation came to be. I hope we can rebuild our life on release & he has the opportunity to positively contribute to society.

I have written a blog to communicate the challenges of this life, such as recent prison visits and sentencing - https://t.co/FjU97PF4Gg

[My Secret Life - Partner of a sex offender @MySoSecretLife]

This is me.
@jeremyindika is a victim of CSA & is opening up the convo in very real ways.
I've not met anyone on this journey that doesn't want to stop child abuse. Whether they are victims, offenders, loved ones of victims & offenders https://t.co/iljlmb7BIO

[My Secret Life - Partner of a sex offender @MySoSecretLife]

Looking for dog fostering charities?

My partner has to go into a hostel for 6 weeks when he is released. The current carers cannot cover this
The visualisation of us all being together again has provided us hope & strength. My current situation is not suitable to care for them

[My Secret Life - Partner of a sex offender @MySoSecretLife]

Will I ever be allowed to feel proud of my partner or will he always be defined by this?

[My Secret Life - Partner of a sex offender @MySoSecretLife]

@rosiejustice12 I totally understand this. It makes me wonder what else I'm ignorant of