the neurodivergent obsession with trying to figure out why someone did what they did. replaying it. analyzing it. asking your friends. asking your therapist. asking your friends again. because your brain literally cannot accept that some people are just cruel for no reason.
Neurotypicals will be like "I know you have a disability that affects your ability to stay organized, manage your time properly, socialize, or control what you're able to think about or focus on, but that's not an excuse to have trouble staying organized, managing your time properly, socializing, or controlling what you need to think about or focus on." And then demand that they aren't ableist. I'm tired.
"LISTEN TO YOUR BODY" IS TERRIBLE ADVICE FOR ADHD. 🤡 If I listened to my body, I would eat 2kg of sugar, quit my job via text, and sleep for 3 years. My body doesn't want "health." My body wants Dopamine. It is a toddler screaming for candy. If I do what it wants, I will ruin my life by noon. Who else has a body that tries to sabotage them daily?
One of my college professors used to say "anything worth doing is worth doing poorly." I didn't understand that for years because I didn't do anything poorly, I couldn't do anything poorly, I had to Do Everything Perfectly.
But brushing your teeth for 30 seconds is better than not brushing them at all when that 2 minutes seems exhausting. Doing ten minutes of yoga is better than 10 minutes of sitting when 30 minutes of cardio sounds impossible.
Changing my clothes is good when a whole shower is impossible. Standing on the porch for a few minutes is worth it after being in the house for three straight days because I don't have the energy to go anywhere.
Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly... because doing it poorly is better than not doing it.
Turns out that "gifted, high-achieving child" who finished assignments in 10 minutes, read entire books under the blanket with a flashlight, and was praised for being mature... was actually just an undiagnosed ADHD girlie operating on pure, unregulated hyperfocus.
adhd ruins my life everyday it pisses me off when people talk about it like some quirky personality trait. do you understand how horrific it is to know you have to get something done and your brain is on red alert screaming at you to do it but you just physically cant
my friend who's now committed for over 4 years very casually in a conversation told me, "you don't change your partner, you accept them as they are but also your partner should consciously change for you to be a better human and a lover"
i was flabbergasted.
perfectionism with ADHD is so funny because you'll spend 6 hours perfecting something that didn't need to be perfect while avoiding the actually important thing because what if you can't do it perfectly
There is a specific kind of ADHD rage that happens when you’re finally "in the zone" and someone interrupts you for a split second. It’s not that you’re mean; it’s that the delicate glass bridge you spent four hours building in your head just shattered, and you know you’ll never be able to find all the pieces again.
Everyone wants to claim ADHD until it comes wi comorbities or the disabled parts. 🙄 no 1 wants to claim ADHD or AuDHD once you mention the high debt, high unemployment, high addiction, low wage earning, loss of housing, low life expectancy rates among ADHD & AuDHDers. No 1 wants to claim it when the home is dirty & showers are a challenge & burnout takes 5yrs (or forever) to recover from. only claim it when it's "quirky & cute" like forgetting your keys 3x/yr. They don't want dyscalculia tho...
I hate how ADHD has been sensationalized as the fun mental illness but having it literally feels like walking around with some very specific kind of dementia that is actively ruining your life at every step and the culprit is always you.
the biggest enshittification that ive seen post-2020 is every customer-facing job running off a skeleton crew cause every company realized that they can *technically* survive off of it and increase their profits in the process
Sometimes male anger at ‘women getting special treatment’ reminds me of a gorilla experiment. One gorilla gets a banana every hour. The females next to him get one every four hours. Then someone decides to be fairer and gives the females a banana every two hours instead. The original gorilla? He flips out. He's still getting his banana every hour, but it feels like a loss because his advantage shrank. That's how a lot of men react to basic fairness for women: not as justice, but as theft.