I no longer give people multiple chances to show me they dislike me. People will minimize your accomplishments, speak negatively about your future, withhold genuine support, or quietly root against your growth. I look at patterns. Behavior exposes what words try to hide.✍️
I’ve never looked at someone’s terrible boundaries or lack of confidence and thought, let me come and take advantage of it. In fact when I notice someone isn’t living in their power or agency, I feel compelled to teach them how to be more self assured. So although yes, people should be more self protective. It takes a bad person, to take advantage of someone that clearly isn’t. And they should be called out for it.
Your job is important but, so are your workouts, your lunch breaks, vacation days, hobbies, the people waiting for you when you get home.
Works pays for your life. It isn't supposed to replace it.
I don’t want to "download the app" to pay for parking. I don’t want to "create an account" to see a menu. I don’t want to "provide feedback" on a 30-second interaction. I just want to exist in the physical world without a digital leash.
I think that’s partly due to it being a cultural norm. In the white community, teens take their partners home in high school and families are guiding those relationships. Black teens are taught dating is a crime and are then expected to pull a spouse and kids out a hat