Unfortunately, I do want a provider. I do want a protector. I do want a leader. I do want a dominant man. I do want emotional maturity and effective communication. I do want mental stability. I do want to be spoiled. I do want self awareness. I do want clingy, obsessed and safe. I do want someone who chooses me every time. And nobody is going to make me feel bad for wanting those things in a partner.
Date someone who is curious about you. Not someone who simply finds you attractive or entertaining, but someone who wants to know the person behind the surface. Someone who reads every message twice, remembers the stories you almost forgot to tell, and notices the little things no one else does. Someone who wants to know where your scars came from, what shaped you, what makes you laugh, and what keeps you awake at night. Attraction may draw someone in, but genuine interest is what makes them stay. Find someone who wants to learn every layer of who you are.
I’ve started appreciating days where nothing dramatic happens. no bad news, no stressful interactions, no overwhelming thoughts. just a normal, quiet day where everything is calm. those are the days that actually feel like rest.
Ending a friendship because of misalignment is valid ,if I see that the life that you’re living is not the life I desire for myself I can just cut you off.
Rent. Petrol hike. Talking stages. Electricity hike. 8 liters a day. Ashwaganda. Supplements. Vitamins. Degree. KPIs. 10 000 steps a day. Exercise. Tax free savings. Retirement annuity. Smell good. Therapy. Heal your inner child. Madlanga commission. March and March. Blended families. Baby mama/daddy drama. Levies. Laundry. Kids. Text back. Lunchboxes. Living on a budget. Car insurance. Being a wife. Mom. Dinner preps. Hobbies. Staying in touch with your loved ones. Weekend = saturday only. Church. One book a month. Applying sunscreen. Probiotics. School fees. Kegel exercises. Praying. Meditating. Balanced diet. Vacations. Tax. Interest rates. View once salary. 8 hours of rest. Saxophone is getting louder. Payflex. Pay just now. Living beyond our means. Networking. Multiple streams of income. Travel. Fasting. Build your investment portfolio. Unemployment. Kind regards.
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Acts of service men are dangerously attractive.
Fixing problems, making sure you’ve eaten, charging your phone, carrying your things… that’s romance to me.
i have a friend who treats me so well that she doesn’t even know that she’s established a standard for how i let everyone else treat me, and i think that’s beautiful