โLet me ask my partnerโ is actually deeply healthy in many scenarios and shows that the person values the input of their significant other. Yโall just donโt want to consider someone else and think being hyper independent and โyou donโt own me!!!โ Leads to a successful PARTNERship. Yes itโs dumb and can be controlling when it comes things like outfits or something. But if you arenโt ready to genuinely consider someone elseโs feelings and input on an activity or event or whatever that realistically will impact you both, you arenโt ready for an adult partnership.