@chensiquan_@libriscent Even in close friendship too, you want to feel valued but their actions make it feel like its not you're there to support each other not for it to be one sided.
@arikoyarii Currently going through a situation where I'm trying to repair a friendship but it makes me feel like she doesn't want to especially when she doesn't communicate with me that's the hardest part because I always wait for a reply from her but always message back within the day.
@libriscent She left me confused but I still tried for us both I think asked for some space after my grandads funeral because I was feeling numb all the time and ever since then I've gone on a downwards spiral but I'll take accountability for my actions she won't.
@Kings1627796@Gabbrielxzn But what if they hurt you first to the point they had you confused, and then you ask for some space and the hold it over you when you want to reconnect and repair?
@ZaraEveryDay@1ssve But that's when the tell tale signs of an avoidant started to appear, they started when we first started dating but couldn't quite put my finger on it till the second time around. Even asked her why and she couldn't tell me but the signs were there.
@ZaraEveryDay@1ssve The next they don't, I got the silent treatment from my ex we spent the weekend together like we had done previously only this time she had a week off from work and didn't reply or acknowledged my messages for 3 days to when I asked her if everything was okay she said yes
@ZaraEveryDay@1ssve At least you're going to be upfront about it, rather than the partner having to learn and find out the hard way, either way it's mental torture to the partner you're being avoidant with. That and push and pull, one minute they want to see you every day/other day
@riftgirl_@Solyricon Mine breadcrumbed me then she dropped the "we're not compatible" after months of dating and enjoying everything we did together to then try deny she had the characteristics of an avoidant. Nothing more mentally damaging than those two put together.
@disappear30 Towards the end of 2025 and the start of this years, just spent the last 2 weeks focusing on myself and no one else because the energy hasn't been reciprocated.
@GoodGirlNaomi@Broken_Dreamszz When you're putting in all the energy and showing you care and its not getting reciprocated then you know it's time to walk away, I've experienced it and it's mentally draining currently on the recovery side of it now, it's definitely a lesson learnt.