Olimpia • New Lore

Founder of New Lore Co, A narrative strategy studio that crafts thoughtful branding & compelling Squarespace websites

[Olimpia • New Lore @NewLoreCo]

I'm Olimpia, founder of New Lore.

By day I also work full-time as the Marketing Manager for a neuroscience company, which means New Lore has become a slower, more intentional creative practice. I take on a small number of client projects each month, spend an unreasonable amount of time writing essays about branding and the world around us, and have recently fallen back in love with creating workbooks that help business owners think more clearly about their messaging.

I'm also a biologist by training, an incurable notebook collector, and someone who believes good branding has far more to do with observation than persuasion.

If you've recently found your way here, thank you. I hope you'll stick around.

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I'm NOT a parent, so take this for whatever limited value it's worth, but I've had very intelligent breed dogs and there are definitely 2 types of energy; physical and mental. When I would exercise them and they still were crawling out of their skin they needed a mental challenge.

Maybe have her solve something? Not sure what would be good at that age lol Puzzles? Crafting something?

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Do they though? All the responses I've seen are a list of reasons as to why it's IMPOSSIBLE for them to be attractive after beocming a mom and that it's shameful to even ask. It's very strange to me. You don't fit into the same dress you did at 22? Great, cool, buy a new flattering one, this isn't a Herculean task.

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I also said we do it to men, but you're being purposefully disingenuous now lol

I've done it to my husband. One day he misunderstood something I had said and he got so upset about it and I had to tell him to calm down so I could clarify. He did, he stopped to listen, I explained the miscommunication, and he was able to go "oh, ok, sorry!" And that was that. It is a request to regulate himself for a minute so I could articulate what the miscommunication was.

That wasn't misandry, it was asking him to self-regulate for a second so we could have a productive conversation. I didn't invalidate, I was asking him to take a breath from his emotions.

You would probably have more productive conversations if you didn't react to helpful regulatory recommendations like you're being oppressed. Your poor husband married an irrational woman incapable of self-regulating, I guess.

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You see dismissal when it's actually regulation advice. You could treat it as an external cue that interrupts the loop, take a breath, and explain yourself more calmly. If someone is telling you to calm down it's likely that you've gotten to a point where you aren't explaining yourself properly/productively anymore. You see invalidation because you want to. We do it to children so they can explain themselves with more composure, men do it to each other, this is an incredibly normal human interaction, and the fact that ONLY women treat it like an invalidation that sends them into rage says a lot. You also have not articulated how it's misogyny, besides maybe "this is something I don't like and I happen to be a woman."

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@Wendxii @DegenSainthood @JendersII Why though? Explain it. Why is being told to calm down sending you into a white hot rage?

And how is it misogyny?

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@brandonzx @rhett_burns Oh no, found the jeans and a T-shirt at a funeral guy

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All the quote tweets to your original tweet must all be parody, they all sound like they are purposefully trying to misunderstand your point.

You said "hey, you should strive to stay attractive to your husband in your dress and manerisms to keep the spark alive"

They hear "so I should just never gain baby weight and always have sex immediately post birth???"

What is the point of aggressively strawmaning your point?

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Facebook has been feeding me a lot of "divorce coach" content lately, especially in the videos it tries to show me. I assume at first it was because I am part of a couple stepmom communities online, I'm happily married and not interested in getting divorced at all. Now, however, it's because I can't stop watching the buffet of mentally ill women that charge others for their coaching expertise.

What's alarming to me is how many of these divorce coaches are all women that have all allegedly divorced high-conflict narcissists (essentially all of them), and how many of these same women 100% exude high-conflict personalities. You can see it in their eyes and their energy, they were probably the problem. One woman, a paralegal that calls herself a "legal strategist," that pops up a lot for me has a facial expression that is always oozing with contempt when she talks about how to "win" in court, it's palpable that she's fueled by revenge and obsession.

This is made even more obvious by some of the stories they tell that they think will make their ex-husband look bad. Such as one mom that would take all of the clothes that came home from dad to GoodWill for some reason, because all the "good" clothes she buys the kids must stay at her house, but dad only buys "not good" clothing so she donates it away when the kids return home in his outfits. She got roasted in the comments, but a lot of these other coaches find a lot of support for similar stories.

Thousands, if not perhaps millions of women, are getting coached by literal cluster B personality disorder women on how to destroy their marriages, lie and decieve their way into a "better" divorce outcome for themselves, and on how to make the situation as conflictive as possible for the ex and their children... all while calling themselves the "protective parent."

While there are definitely women out there that escaped genuine abuse and offer some of this coaching, it has become incredibly obvious to me that this space is absolutely saturated with high-conflict women doing DARVO for money and pitty points.

It's incredibly disfunctional and terrifying. These women are not well and they're making a living off of this.

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@MateyYanakiev @TheEcho13 This! A partner that can self-regulate and doesn't bring chaos and difficulty into your life. It's very telling that some women (the not easy-going ones I presume?) see this as something it's not because they don't know what it's like to be a low-drama, easy-going partner.

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@DegenSainthood @JendersII I was picked, and picked well, so I don't consider that an insult. I have an incredible husband I adore and we bring out the best in each other, and I hope you find that too.

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@itispsychomath @GenZPatriotz Another artist. The prophesy is fulfilled

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@SherryLuvsIdaho @mkcselby Same! And it's not hard or unpleasant at all. My husband listens to my opinions but ultimately I trust him wholeheartedly to make the final call on things, I know he has good judgement and our best interest at heart. It's comforting having that kind of leadership in our home.

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Curiously though, when Spain was under Moor rule for 800 years, they rebuilt and went into a golden age. You do not see millions of Spaniards begging and pleading to go into Morroco or Turkey for a better life, even illegally if need be. Why would you want to move into the country of people you held resentment towards?

Sounds like revenge immigration is reserved for those that think life is better under their colonizer after all.

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@theactuallew You're not allowed to test a woman's agreeableness but it's one of the qualities that is most likely to lead to a successful marriage.

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@audrawrongspeak Coveted* I mean. It's not bad, project managers make decent money. I think the average range is somewhere like $80-120k a year. So in 6 months or less, after maybe a $1-2k prep course + the $500 exam fee, you can have a totally new career.

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I would argue that criminalizing abortion IS a mercy. It is a powerful deterrent, for most women it will be enough to modify behavior and stop them from doing something they may ultimately regret.

A large percentage of women say they abort because of pressure/lack of support from their partners, and criminalization gives her a reason with teeth to not relent and abort. It prevents crappy men from having an easy "out" from their responsibility to her and their child.

The most merciful thing we can do is to criminalize abortion, like we do with all unjust killing, and watch how quickly behavior changes. We save babies from death. We save women from the regret and health issues of killing their own young. We save good fathers from not having the ability to save their baby in the womb.

Criminalizing abortion is undeniably the most merciful as well as the most just position. All 1 million+ women that abort a year will not be put in prison, watch the law pass and watch that number plummet.

We keep trying to change hearts and minds the nice way but nothing—nothing—changes hearts and minds faster than facing a criminal charge for an action.