Anxious attachment fades when we stop ruminating about why our avoidant partner couldn’t love us, and we start feeling safe that our needs are no longer bound to their limited capacity…Their silence feels like freedom instead of pain - a sign of becoming securely attached again.
The more you heal, the more you realize it's not about feeling better; it's about getting better at feeling the negative emotions that arise from the hurt and releasing the trapped traumatic energy in your body.
I'm seeing two things right now on social media... 1. Black folks are not talking about Trump, and if so, it's in a hilarious performative manner... 2. White people are completely losing their shits. It's a very hilarious observation. Black people are really minding our business.
If you want to grow, stay away from those who don't want to work on themselves, those who play the victim, those who want to be your luggage, those who don't clap when you win, those who judge you for changing, those who wait for you to fail, and those who want the old you back.
Maturity is seeing somebody's lack of effort as their lack of interest in you regardless of what they say. Giving you all of the right words, but none of the right actions is called manipulation. If they wanted to, they would. Period.