Nikki Redhead

Refrigerated Transport Owner @Keepitcool247 , happy and content...funny that in transport!

[Janet Murray @jan_murray]

Dear friend (who thinks I’m unkind - or even homophobic),

Remember how much we loved Boy George and Marilyn when we were growing up? Our parents weren’t thrilled by men in make-up and dresses - but we thought they were cool. They were expressing individuality and challenging rigid gender stereotypes.

You and I both grew up supporting gay rights for a simple reason: people shouldn’t be punished, excluded or shamed for who they love.

That belief hasn’t changed.

But being gay, lesbian or bisexual is about who you’re attracted to. Gender identity is about how someone understands or describes themselves.

Those are not the same thing.
And treating them as if they are puts women and girls
at risk.

Here’s the crucial difference.

Boy George, Marilyn, David Bowie - and others before them - pushed boundaries around gender expression: clothes, make-up, performance. But we knew they were men - and so did they.

They weren’t demanding entry to women’s spaces.
They weren’t claiming women’s awards or competing in women’s sporting categories.
And women weren’t being forced to agree that the man standing in front of them was a woman - or risk social or professional consequences.

We both have daughters now - young women just starting their adult lives. I’ve taught mine that no means no and I’m sure you’ve taught yours the same.

But that message becomes meaningless if our girls are also being told they must say “yes” to any man who says he’s a woman - even when their instincts say otherwise.

If a girl isn’t interested in make-up or stereotypically feminine things, she may be told she’s actually a man - rather than a strong, independent young woman who dresses and behaves as she pleases.

And if she’s same-sex attracted, she may face pressure from men who identify as “lesbians” and expect access to her spaces - and her body - something we'd never have accepted as progressive or 'kind' when we were younger.

Single-sex spaces - toilets, changing rooms, hospital wards, refuges, prisons - exist because women need them. Not because all men are dangerous, but because male violence is a reality and sex-based boundaries reduce risk.

Women cannot know which men pose a threat and which don’t. That’s why all must stay out of women's spaces. Good men understand this - without question.

I know you want to be kind. So do I.

But kindness isn’t asking women and girls to surrender their privacy, dignity or safety in order to prove they’re “tolerant”.

Or calling them 'homophobic' or bigoted for saying no.

With love,
Janet

[Nikki Redhead @NikkiRedhead21]

@TeamAsdaHelp0 Hi Shey, the issue is literally as written…website not loading, is there an issue today?

[Nikki Redhead @NikkiRedhead21]

@AsdaServiceTeam @asda is your website down today? Nothing seems to be loading so a shop is impossible

[Nikki Redhead @NikkiRedhead21]

@UKLabour surely if this “boy” that’s murdered three girls is old enough to vote then he’s old enough to be named for his atrocities???

[Nikki Redhead @NikkiRedhead21]

@WhatsApp what have you done with my settings?! 😫 they are awful!

[Nikki Redhead @NikkiRedhead21]

@GoodisonMiss Congratulations!!! Rafe is thrilled for you!

[Nikki Redhead @NikkiRedhead21]

@jk_rowling I wholeheartedly support you and ALL your words. What these people are trying to do to you is disgusting #getagrippeople #womenhaverightstoo

[Nikki Redhead @NikkiRedhead21]

@AshleyMcBryde you and your band are just awesome. That’s all that needs to be said!

[Nikki Redhead @NikkiRedhead21]

@ASOS please can you let me know how on earth to contact you I’ve been searching for a phone number or email all day and I just keep getting sent round in circles with your FAQs #CustomerService #minefield #dontwanttochat ?

[Nikki Redhead @NikkiRedhead21]

@C2Cfestival @C2Cfestival we have always been first in the queue for early bird tickets but after witnessing what happened @TheO2 this wknd and having had a genuine conversation with my husband about where we may be safest sitting we have had a rethink. Your silence on this is making it worse

[Nikki Redhead @NikkiRedhead21]

@WhisperingBob @HattonLisa Thanks for responding on this issue @WhisperingBob it’s just a real shame @C2Cfestival and @TheO2 can’t take time out from plugging next years show to respond to the serious concerns about this weekends event.

[Nikki Redhead @NikkiRedhead21]

@C2Cfestival @TheO2 a response on last nights issues would be appreciated. An amazing weekend marred by violence and a truly menacing situation and atmosphere. Security were unable to do a thing. Genuine concern for next year. #C2C #C2C2022 #notforfighting

[Nikki Redhead @NikkiRedhead21]

@TheO2 who manages your bars?! Here @C2Cfestival and it’s amazing but I’m not sure any single one of your bar staff has ever worked a bar before!!! The service is so bad! And sooooo slow!

[Nikki Redhead @NikkiRedhead21]

@TheO2 please train your bar staff! All going to disarray already and @C2Cfestival barely started! Advertising Magners when you are selling Strongbow seems to be the first confusing factor!

[Nikki Redhead @NikkiRedhead21]

@CP_UK_Sherwood @centreparcs Thanks, I received the voicemail and my husband went down to Guest Services…no chalk available apparently. It’s just frustrating as we either have to call and are on hold for ages or email and just don’t get replies which has been the case repeatedly with this booking.

[Nikki Redhead @NikkiRedhead21]

@CP_UK_Sherwood @centreparcs no chalk for kids in your lodges because of Covid? “You are welcome to buy your own at a supermarket”…seriously??!!!! 🤷🏻‍♀️ #worldgonemad #woke #itsonlychalk #threesadchildren #allaboutthemoneyobvs

[Nikki Redhead @NikkiRedhead21]

@mrmichaelball that was just was needed today! 😂 don’t think I’ve ever belted Wig Wam Bam with quite so much gusto...

[Nikki Redhead @NikkiRedhead21]

@MarchinAlready @C2Cfestival But why can’t they state that they are awaiting the outcome of the Cobra meeting if that is indeed the case? If they kept us abreast of their situation this would all be much less frustrating.

[Nikki Redhead @NikkiRedhead21]

Come on @C2Cfestival we need you to start responding...totally unfair to have everyone hanging on to hear whether we should travel or not; utter silence is far from the best way to deal with this, especially when your acts are already communicating about returning to the US...