Part of healing is shadow work. This comes with sitting down admitting your faults, accepting your wrongs, analyzing yourself, & deciding to work on things, without beating yourself up about everything youโre working on.
Just apologize when you know that you fckd up. All of that manipulative behavior and being mad at a person for being mad at you, when they have a legit reason to be, is just weird. People love to say theyโre grown until it's time to hold themselves accountable.