Nitty’s Realm

Writer and speaker on betrayal trauma, attachment wounds, and healing. Helping people rebuild self trust, resilience, and peace.

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New Here? Start Here

If you’re new here, this space is about betrayal, attachment wounds, nervous system patterns, and rebuilding self trust after hurt. If that’s where you are, you’re in the right place.

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Your Boundary Needs A Next Step

A boundary without a next step can start sounding like a request.

Write the line, then write what you will do if the line gets crossed again.

Save this before your next hard conversation.

More support and book updates: https://t.co/HlIL6inPfD

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Relief Is Not Repair

An apology can calm your body before the pattern has actually changed.

Use three checks: what did they name, what did they change, and did it last when things got hard?

More support and book updates: https://t.co/HlIL6inPfD

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Don’t Hand Them Your Worth

You may keep chasing closure because part of you still wants them to say you mattered.

Before you reach out, separate the real question from the part that wants to feel chosen.

More support and book updates: https://t.co/HlIL6inPfD

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Don’t Text From The Spike

That urgent text can feel like relief, but it may come from panic instead of clarity.

Write the message in Notes first, wait ten minutes, then send only the part that still feels true.

More support and book updates: https://t.co/HlIL6inPfD

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The Replay Has A Job

Your mind keeps replaying the relationship because it's trying to find the moment your safety changed.

Instead do this: write down the pattern, the warning sign, and what you'll trust next time.

More support and book updates: https://t.co/HlIL6inhq5

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Stop Carrying Their Choice

Self-blame after betrayal can feel like control.

Try this question: what is mine to learn from, and what was never mine to carry?

More support and book updates: https://t.co/HlIL6inhq5

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This Is Shock, Not Weakness

That unreal feeling after betrayal has a name.

Before you judge yourself, check your body, your facts, and your next safe step.

Save this for the moments when you feel like you are losing it.

More support and book updates: https://t.co/HlIL6inhq5

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One More Answer Won’t Calm It

It can feel like relief, but it can also keep your body activated.

Before you ask again, write the real question underneath the urge.

More support and book updates: https://t.co/HlIL6inPfD

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If you’re in the first shock wave, go slow. I’m building a deeper Start Here breakdown for this exact stage, and my book waitlist and support resources are here: https://t.co/HlIL6inhq5

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Don’t Solve It Tonight

Discovery shock makes everything feel urgent.

Before you decide, confront, text everyone, or try to solve your whole future, get through the next hour with less damage.

Write what you know, need right now, and what can wait until your body settles.

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If the good memories keep making you question yourself, go gently. A good moment can be real and still not make the whole pattern safe. I go deeper into betrayal trauma, attachment, and healing in my upcoming book. Join the waitlist here ➡️: https://t.co/HlIL6inhq5

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Why The Good Memories Hurt So Much

If the good memories keep pulling you back after betrayal, this may help. 🌿

For many people, the good moments were real, but they were not the whole pattern.

Save this 🧷 for the next time the good memories start messing with your clarity.

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If you keep waiting for closure from someone who broke your trust, you are not weak. I go deeper into betrayal trauma and rebuilding in my upcoming book. Join the waitlist here: https://t.co/HlIL6inhq5

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Why You Still Want Closure From Them

If you still want closure from the person who broke your trust, this may be why. ❤️‍🩹

For many people, closure is not only about answers. It is about hoping the right explanation will finally settle the body.

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If you still miss them, that doesn't mean you should go back and it doesn't mean you are weak. I go deeper into betrayal trauma, attachment, and healing in my upcoming book. Join the waitlist here: https://t.co/HlIL6inhq5

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Why You Still Miss Them After Betrayal

If you still miss them after everything they did, this may help you understand why. 🌿

For many people, missing them is not only about the person. It's about the bond, the hope, and the version of them that felt real.

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If this is a pattern you keep getting pulled into, you’re not crazy and you’re not weak. I go deeper into betrayal trauma, attachment, and rebuilding self trust in my upcoming book. Join the waitlist here ➡️: https://t.co/HlIL6inhq5

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Why You Keep Checking Their Social Media

If you keep checking their page even though it hurts every time, this may be why. ❤️‍🩹

For many people, checking is not really about curiosity. It is about trying to feel prepared for the next hit.

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If this loop has been wearing you down, go gently with yourself. My upcoming book goes deeper into betrayal trauma, self-trust, and healing after relational pain. The waitlist is on my website: https://t.co/l9dlSd6eFb

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Why You Can’t Stop Replaying The Relationship

If your mind keeps replaying the whole relationship, this may be why. 🌿

For many people, the replay is not only memory. It is the brain trying to protect you from being blindsided again.