@imsokeldone Although we may not love ourselves the way we love others, we should...maybe more so. We deserve that same degree of Mama Bear Mode for ourselves.
@imsokeldone Standing up for yourself is not "being mean" to others. Consider the scenario where someone you care about deeply is being dumped on by another person. All those caring feelings for that person under attack kick in, and you go into Mama Bear Mode...Protecting the One You Love.