I’m a 42-year-old woman from Ibadan, married to a 30 year-old man from Enugu.
We got married late last year.
He lives in my house.
He eats my food.
He spends my money freely.
Honestly, none of that has ever been my problem. I’m a self-made makeup artist and brand influencer, and money has never been the issue.
The real challenge is his behavior.
This man acts like a child emotionally. Whenever we have even a small disagreement, he goes silent. He keeps malice for days… sometimes weeks. No communication. No maturity. Just silence.
Most times, I end up apologizing—even when I’m not the one at fault.
There were times I bought him flowers just to make peace.
Other times, I had to buy gifts before he would talk to me again.
Once, after a serious argument, I bought him an iPhone just so he could come around.
There was also a time we fought and he smashed my glass table in anger. I replaced it. And still, I was the one who apologized.
I have always been the one begging, fixing, calming things down—whether I was wrong or not.
What finally pushed me to seek advice is what happened two nights ago.
We had a heated argument. In his anger, he smashed my phone, packed his bags, and walked out of the house.
Since then, both of his phone numbers have been switched off. I’ve tried calling endlessly—nothing.
I am tired.
Tired of the childish reactions.
Tired of apologizing all the time.
Tired of paying emotionally, financially, and mentally just to keep peace.
But the truth is… I love this man deeply.
Please, I’m begging—don’t advise me to divorce him. I can’t go back to singlehood. I’ve seen enough hardship out there.
I just want to know:
What should I do?
Please keep me anonymous.
Domestic airlines NEED to stop telling passengers that their refund process takes 4 weeks.
There can't be two captains-in-command on an aircraft.
The NCAA regulations are clear about the timeframe for ticket refunds, and it is 14 days. Part 19 of the NCAA Regulations 2023 remains in force. Operators cannot create a different rule in this regard.
To all passengers: if you apply for a refund and an airline tells you that it would take 4 weeks, kindly forward that communication to [email protected][email protected][email protected] immediately.
Enough of this. We cannot all claim to be working for the improvement of the industry and be duplicating rules in a manner that undermines the Authority and is unfair to passengers.
Oh death, ‘na who dye assholes dey get mouth on’’🙄. The ones alive oppressing them, they are too cowardly to oppose.
At the end we are all born astride the grave, pray y’all even grow old.
Rest in Peace Baba Buhari.
Let it be on record that Peter Obi supporters who are mostly Igbos are celebrating Buhari's death the way they celebrated the death of Yar'adua in 2010.
Sad day 4 me in every sense of it. 2day, our hearts are heavy with grief as we mourn d passing of a truly remarkable individual. May his legacy live on, inspiring us to emulate his greatness, & may his soul rest in eternal peace...adieu Baba, felt it like d passing of my own dad.
Nigerians are not ready to work, the work culture in Nigeria is too poor. There is no willingness to work. The problem is not the government, we are the problem -- Lady
What happened earlier today with the movement of the so-called ‘coalition’ into the ADC is the greatest factor that has strengthened the APC ahead of the 2027 elections. Let me explain.
By law, you cannot operate from, or belong to, two or multiple political parties, so it is safe to say that their open declaration for ADC today is a clear abandonment of their previous parties. In fact, belonging to two political parties is a ground for disqualification in an election.
Therefore, the emergence of ADC as presently constituted marks the formal dismemberment of the PDP, hitherto Nigeria’s strongest opposition Party. Majority of the old guard in the PDP (who have apparently lost control of the Party) have been pushed out of the party by the Younger Turks within the PDP. That is why the gathering today was a conglomerate of ‘former this’ and ‘former that’ of the PDP. No matter how you look at it, this is just Atiku’s faction of PDP in desperate search for the 2027 Presidential ticket - nothing more, nothing less.
The other addition to the so-called ‘coalition’ is a sprinkling of APC members who actually worked against President Bola Ahmed Tinubu in the last election and one or two APC leaders who lost their constituencies to opposition parties in 2023. Their movement therefore takes NOTHING away from the APC. It is actually better for the APC because it is just a case of totally extracting the germ that was eating the cola nut from within.
The person who the old, cunning guards want to take for a ride in all of this is Peter Obi. They want his votes, but don’t want to give him their Presidential ticket, because this is Atiku’s show simpliciter. That is why David Mark is the interim Chairman. Those who know politics know what I am saying. But if you do not give Peter Obi the Presidential ticket, you lose his supporters. It is as simple as that. And how can you make someone who won two regions in the last election (South-East and South-South) a running mate to the person who won only one region (North-East)?
Therefore, when the dust settles, you will discover that PDP and the Labour Party have lost something, the ADC have only gained something like a caricature, but the APC has lost ABSOLUTELY nothing.
What this all means is that since the 2023 elections, the APC have become stronger, whilst the opposition parties have been fragmented and have become weaker. Those who have defected to the APC since 2023 (the Governors, Senators, Honourable members, etc) put side-by-side with a small handful who have left the APC, who would you rather have in your ranks? That is where lies the key to the whole analyses.
For now, let us face governance and allow them exercise their constitutional right to associate and assemble.