Bro, it's difficult doing life without the presence of another male figure in your life. Someone to share your thoughts with, someone to talk to, someone you can be vulnerable with. I had one, death took him from me. I feel naked. NwaOgaranya, I miss you.
I hope the universe favors me from birth if I'm ever here again. When it does, I hope I understand the place of privilege. However, in this present life I hope I get it right so I can show up for the people that loves me and the ones I love.
Shalom!
Around here, we don’t do “happy wife, happy home.” We do “happy couple, happy home.”
The husband’s happiness matters too. We’re not inheriting the silence of our fathers.
One of the craziest shit that can happen to you is making money only to use it to solve a serious health condition around you.
You gota stay smiling and hopeful but it drains you physically and mentally.
When they are gone, how much money you make, will probably never matter. Shit will never feel the same when you're reminded you can't enjoy it and create memories with ur favorite people.
You can have a thousand problem when you lose your health, then you only have one problem.
Recently, my mom was on admission. Everyday, myself, my siblings and my dad were at the hospital. We kept her company till 10pm before we dispersed, with one person staying back overnight.
Everyday, I looked around and saw the entire family and I smiled. It made me realized part of the ressons I hated living abroad. Your love one is sick and all you can do is send money. Meanwhile, your heart is beating fast because you cant see them. There is celebration or random Sunday family gathering and you are the only one missing. The reason I always show up in person for anything is that money cannot fill the place of presence. It is the memories we share that lingers.
Many families can't gather together anymore for celebration or caregiving. The only time some families can gather now is burial, and even burial no dey see complete family again. Nigeria has to work for the next generation. They deserve to gather around with their cousins, nephews, nieces, aunts, uncles, parents, and grandparents on a random Sunday.