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Hey #MedTwitter I’m trying to start an “Adopt-a-Resident” program in my hospital, and I’m looking for ANY insight into what kinds of things can be helpful and good gifts/ideas for making the process easier. Local food recs? Best coffee joint? Small snack packs? Places to cry?😂

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@calvinrobinson This you?

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@JDVance Sure hope this helps!

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@Chesschick01 @RoosforFlorida

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[Elwë Singollo 🌻🧝🏻‍♀️ @Strangeland_Elf]

I took issue with that guy’s tweet about not enjoying spending time with his kids for several reasons, but the thing that immediately stood out to me is the manipulative way it’s written.

He speaks it as if he’s reaching out for help and advice but he’s writing in a way that seems to me is supposed to lead you to the point he’s actually trying to make and validate.

That idea is that the notion of a father being closely involved in the life of his children while they are young is a modern invention, that this is almost solely a mother’s role, and the reason he doesn’t enjoy it is because it’s not a job for men.

Why do I think he’s trying to be manipulative and not just being honest and vulnerable? First of all is the way he starts off asking if he’s a monster. He starts with this intense and over-the-top, dramatic “woe is me” language. It is extreme so you get the idea that he must feel really bad about it. BUT then he almost immediately gives away his game by bringing up his idea of this being “historically normal”. If he was really so distraught and felt as guilty as he first makes it sound, why would he follow it up with his idea that it’s historically normal for men to feel this way? He is implanting his excuse right there. The whole tweet is actually a disguised argument that the way he feels PROVES that it’s not the historical norm that men be involved in raising their young children.

You can read this an unfair accusation but just really read how it’s written. It’s full of melodrama and hyperbole that is meant to trick you. When someone is down on themselves the natural reaction is to want to affirm them because it looks “brave” or “honest” or “sincere”. When you perceive vulnerability, the instinct of a kind person is to drop your own guard and expect the best of the person. “Oh he was open about his struggles, I should hear him out.
But you see, that is one of the most basic ways a manipulative person traps you. “Well he was willing to be honest in such a personal way so I guess I can trust his motives”.

But if you examine it a bit more, why is he actually saying he feels bad? Because he loves his kids and wants to want to spend time with them? To me it reads like he’s blaming the cultural expectations that he thinks are unfair. That he should not be expected to be as involved as he is and that it is YOUR fault that he feels like a monster if you don’t affirm his view that this is actually a woman’s role. Why else would he appeal to his idea of “history”?

So I will contend that he was not actually vulnerably reaching out for help, but making an argument disguised as a post from a discouraged father. He says he’s a writer. A writer knows how to use language to try and make a point. I don’t believe for a second that he’s in as much despair as he makes it sound. Sorry if that seems harsh, but if this guy doesn’t see the problem with telling the whole internet he doesn’t want to be around his kids for more than a little over an hour a week, then he should be able to handle some harsh judgement.

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@angry_nj @USATODAY My student loans were paid directly to the Bursar, from the lender…what?!

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@_parasocial Omgggggg I’m about to buy this today for STB hubs and I’m so excited for him/me 😅

…but it’s definitely gonna cut into my Stardew time 🤣

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@Asad_0x @_BlowMyJoe

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@fuqekgs NIHSS +

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@kenny_akon @DidDTrumpDie It’s amazing to me that some of y’all think this is how your bodies work.

You can want to fight all you want, and your body can still fail despite the most advanced medical treatments and technology.

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@Boston_Terf @PanRationalis @Acyn Are you aware of the existence of intersex and non-XY genotypes? Kleinfelter’s, for example?

[Connie Graves 🏳️‍⚧️ @SporkGraves]

Oh okay I’ll go fuck myself then I guess

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@MissSassbox Southerners. It’s a family tradition to make them from scratch in many households 😅

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@Wickedkemp @GuntherEagleman From one nurse to another, we don’t claim you. Take this bullshit somewhere else, babes.

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@pp61346 @ladybirdorwtv @lol361596339558 @HiiiiiP0WER Correct, ours exist/function to feed offspring. Much like the other lactating mammalia. 🫶🏻

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@brb121030850 @DudeManBro1987 @Anc_Aesthetics @elonmusk @grok Adoption isn’t free. Hope this helps!

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@scubacuda999 @fuqekgs Always with a sheath pull! Safety third! 🚨

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@marklewismd @fuqekgs @DGlaucomflecken Nephrology Rounds and Welcome to the ICU are so beyond incredible 🤣

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@fuqekgs @shoshanaphire1 Based.