I’ve never heard a person say why they’re racist…
Or fatphobic..
I’ve never heard a reason why someone is transphobic..
I think if we knew ‘why’ these people felt this way there would way less support for these ideals.
Because the ‘why’ is more insidious than we realize.
if you feel like you have to “water down” ur personality for someone else they don’t deserve to be in your life. if you have to be a less intense version of yourself to be palatable for someone else they don’t deserve your presence. period